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acapella and the other n-partners
Anonymous:
Jaded/Mindy,
Thanks. I'm grateful that you saw how unfair and hostile Sand was. That's what I saw, too. I knew that saying anything to her was futile; she has posted in the past that she doesn't tolerate dissent of any kind. She could use a reality-check.
I'm glad we can be together here.
Acappella:
Bobby, I really appreciated your posts, your voice in the wilderness so to speak in Sandahl's "to those with complaints" post.
Congradulations to all emancipated from the latest fantasy land field trip.
Proud to say I am no longer a "member" of the Sandahl board.
NPartners is also an apt name for the collusion going on there and the denial of the Nism lurking in us all.
I just reread Sandahl's post and saw the "3 people have been removed from membership...not banned...removed" At least she isn't lying afterall. Now I feel that everyone at the old site who reads that thread has more than enough information if and when they are ready to see what is in front of them - word salad it is called. (do a search on this site if you are not familiar with that term and want to learn more) Now I don't even care to go back to the site to alert anyone who has read that thread. They have all they need to know if they want to see it or are capable. For those who haven't read Sandahl's posts and are continuing unawares...I still believe there are signs and I feel for them - I hadn't interacted with Sandahl much if at all and didn't know she was the manager when I asked "who decides when a thread has served its purpose?". I don't know if I would have picked up on her potential or how realized it was. Anyway for anyone who has read the "to those with compliants thread" there is nothing subtle about what she is doing. In this instance it appears to me anyone reading that and sticking around needs an authority figure and to belong more than they need a healthier, freer environment to belong to. How can they defend us if they can't at least see the problem? We of all peoples have the experience to understand that.
I understand and I'm so OUTTA THERE!
hope2003:
Gee, banned vs. removed. If it is involuntary, is there a difference? :twisted:
I kind of like this place. I can finally use the cute emoticions.
Acappella:
P.S. Bobbie
love what you wrote
--- Quote ---Why do I look at everyone else, and expect to see me reflected in their eyes?
--- End quote ---
. (this and Hope's signature about "fool me twice" are big flags to me that you both focus on accepting responsibility & the concomitant power that can bring. COOL)
(What a concept - flags that signal good things. I am weary of scanning the horizon for creepy flags. Maybe the more we face our fears the less our lives become focused on them. Ok, getting way deep and I haven't had breakfast yet. )
Ok, back to your quote....Yeah, especially the expect part! I have a greeting card that I bought because of the picture. I bought it when I was in my early 20s. I had a clue and yet I am taking forever to solve the mystery! Anyway the picture is of a maiden/princess who is standing next to a man, knight, in shinning armor. Nothing new there right? AND she is peering at her own reflection in his armor. Wow, time to bring that out of storage.
The movie Being John Malkovich, if I recall correctly (it has been a while since I saw it) was so very much about that very topic.
I will be renting it again as it was odd and brilliant i felt and perhaps spoke both to the empathy that sort of reflection and vicarious expansion of experience "reflection" can be or the emotional cannibalism - used to hoard or share power.
"Mirror mirror, on the wall.....whose the bestest of them all?" (my slight paraphrasing going on there with bestest) What implosion that fairy tale illustrated.
Jaded911:
Bobbie,
Thank you for being supportive of us. I have no regrets about anything I said. I feel I pretty much hit it right on when I said she demonstrated N actions. You can sit back and look at all of the actions of some of the people on the board right now and ya just have to think that is what we looked like when we had to deal with our N. I am serious and I want to point out WTF I am talking about in case any of them are needing help recognising her N actions.
*She comes on strong, they avoid further conflict and just realise it is easier to agree then disagree.
*Some are trying to tip toe around and lighten up the mood by purposely avoiding this conflict. It reminds me of "if you can't beat them it is easier to just join them" Ya, alrighty then, well not me, no more of that crap.
*Sand basically dismissed everyone elses words because by gosh, she said end it and she will be damned if she will continue to talk about it. Well ya know what, to me that doesnt demonstrate strength and leadership, that demonstrates someone who feels they are weak and in order to feel strength again, they have to act like their word is the gospel. Leadership, nah that is dictatorship. Oh ya, after what I have been through, that is just the place I am trying to avoid.
*Narcissistic people will generally seek outside sources if they feel they cant win the battle alone. Sand took about an hour to figure her strategy out, did you notice the board was still for awhile, then she made her attack on those who injured her righteousness by seeking those on the post for backup. Well, only thing I can say about that. Did you ever get into a fight with someone in elementary school at recess? You were so mad angry at them you tried to make all of your other friends mad at them too so they would play with you and not the person you were angry with. Sand acted no different then a child who has to gather her friends in a rally to assure they all dismiss who dismissed her. Goody Goody Gum Drops, I will be a real big person here and say, coolio she won, ya we lost, congratulations. NOT, I have been dealing with this childish chit for 2 yrs, tired of it, hell I didnt lose, I forfeited.
There are so many other things that she did or did not do that assures me that I spoke it loud for the right reasons. I backed hope up, because ya know, Hope was right all, and so was herm. If others do not feel the same about it, then thats fine, that is their opinion and I respect their opinion. I dont always have to be right. If I am wrong, help me see why I am. You will not get a fight from me, you will only get respect. I didnt see any of this happening folks. Nobody came out to say how her reactions did not mirror that of a N.
Mindy
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