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acapella and the other n-partners
Acappella:
Now, this is livin...out loud!
Jaded911:
I really want as a group of people to openly and freely discuss the events that occurred not to obsessive over it, but to try to get a better understanding of resolving conflict. I just wanted to say this in case there are people out there lurking that feel that we are feeding this frenzy.
I just really cannot accept the fact that all of Sands incriminating statements were removed, yet she left the replies posted to her initial command. When Herms post was deleted, the entire thing was deleted. Why was Herms dismissed, yet Sand kept her SUPPORTIVE replies on the board. I didnt see Herms SUPPORTIVE replies left. But then again, it would not have been in Sands best interest to do that would it? See where I am going with this?
Anonymous:
ALRIGHT ALRIGHT ALRIGHT... :?
If you all are so "happy to be outta there"..why the heck do you care if anyone goes to bat for you? I dont get it.
I never saw Sandahl as being a Narcissist, I think this is pure paranoia on your parts. Yes there was a "scuffle"...but most of the rest of us are going on and making light because in all reality of lifes shit that's thrown at ya, is it that damn important that you had an argument with Sandahl?? Why do you need everyone on that board to side with you, if you are happy you are gone then just be gone, have a good life as Sand would say (haha only joking I swear!)......
Im not meaning to be rude to you , really I'm not it's just that I've seen both sides and yes I can see where Sand was wrong about some things, although I think it was pretty insignificant stuff girls. I dont know why you made such a big deal out of it demanding that she do this and do that.
I agree that those posts should have been left up for awhile but Sand had her reasons for not doing it and I'm sure it wasnt just to piss you off. Even so, I do NOT see her as any kind of "dictator" as you have said here and until I do, I will remain there with levity in my spirit. I have been through too much hell with my N to want to argue this, I dont feel it's a big enough issue to warrant any type of argument. Good luck and stay well. Nike
Jaded911:
Nike,
Like I have stated numerous times, everyone has their right to their opinion, right? I respect your opinion because it is yours, and you should respect my opinion because it is mine. Problem I have with this ordeal, I will be very frank when I say this too, I dont like watching someone get run over because their opinion doesnt jive with anothers. I witnessed this, spoke my opinion, as did everyone else who had the RIGHT to. But ya know, I just have a thing about the kicking us off of there, putting us in the place where we can not comment on anything she states, and I dont really care to have to defend myself AGAIN after the chit we all have been through.
Like I said, communication takes two people, that does include the sender and the receiver. Now you sit there and tell me that Sand listened to what everyone had to say? Nah, hell if I didnt know better, little ole me would swear this was Sand. Oh by the way Sand, you have a good life. You mentioned on that forum that you had been there many years. Hun, that is a temporary fix, I would think that true healing came when continuing to live in the past stopped. Me have a nice life, you freggin bet, I refuse to let one sided people shove their opinions up everyone elses rump.
Nike, there are always two sides to every story. It is just a shame that some people feel it is easier to go along then to disagree. Wait, isnt that traits of Nism. I know so!!!!!!!!
I promise you I am not losing any sleep over this. If anything I have gained a new found sense about what Nism can do to some people. I pride myself in knowing that it has made me remember what FALSE SELF means. Oh I remember it now, just dealt with one for 2 yrs. I will be damned if I will deal with FALSE SELF individuals that I dont even know. Good lord, another sucker punch and run kinda wimp ya being Nike. If I were you, I would have had the balls to post my REAL name, wait, perhaps that is another form of FALSE SELF!!!!!!
Jaded911:
Oh Nike by the way, I am also not trying to be rude or disrespecful about my reply as you stated to us, but in case you have forgotten what some actions of Nism is, let me refresh your memory.
*Unable to have empathy for others.
*Refuses to listen to anyone who appears to damage their grandiose false self.
*Aggressive when approached about false self or lies presented to others.
*Feels they have superiority over everyone else.
*Demeans supply to enhance their own thoughts of grandiosity.
*Lacks ability to apologize.
*Refuses to except responsibility for own actions, blames others for their behavior.
Oh you know silly, the list goes on and on and on. Wow, good thing I didn't see any of this going on with Sand, I would have been able to state then that she was demonstrating some of the above mentioned N traits.
You know if anyone felt I was wrong for stating that, they had every right to approach me and prove me wrong. I respect others feelings and their right to do so, but I just do not think anyone came forward and proved beyond a reasonable doubt that it was a mistake on my part. All I am seeing now is smooching of ars and zipping of lips. What the heck ever, I am a big girl, I sure in the hell can defend myself, but ya bet I will never bow down to conform either. I am very capable of giving apologies, when they are deserved. Nothing has proven to me that I am wrong on stating the N (pssst, you know). So I know I sure can move on, hope everyone else finds the same ability soon. Well actually those who cant get closure because they have spent to much time being trapped in the pain on a board, years of a board, come on. I hope they find what they are looking for, I wouldnt want to be through the healing process for years and years and yada yada.
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