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acapella and the other n-partners
Nike:
Echo wasn't around long enough to know all the players and their stories.
Then why is she posting like a maniac about something she knows not much about? (I suppose I'm doing the same thing here!)
I am going to quit this! My intentions were pure, now I'm not so sure because I am hurt and mad. I will say this, I will not just sit here and allow myself to get trashed, I will defend myself.
Nike:
Having said all that, your thread does make me wonder. I don't really feel that I can trust you with my feelings.
I"m sorry Hope...what I meant by that title is that we are ALL better off...you dont like any of us much anymore, I'm just trying to be helpful in a big intrusive way...I"m sorry that you feel that way about me now.
Jaded911:
Lisa,
You have every right to defend yourself when you feel you are being attacked. That is something that I am not understanding about the other site. I do not have that right to defend myself or anything that anyone is saying about me.
I realised it was you when you told me to shut up, it is Lisa. I then approached you as Lisa, not as Sands mini me. I now know it was you because you clairified that to me Lisa, and ya what, I listened to you. I will only speak in a first person form here, I am going to speak about I, I am not going to speak We.
I would have loved to have the oportunity to let my side be heard. I would like to be able to talk through my issues with anyone who cares to, I do not have a beef with anyone personally, I just know that I will not watch someone I do not even know treat anyone like I felt I had been treated during my relationship. I came to the aid of someone I perceived would be feeling as chitty as I did during my treatment by my x.
I said to you that I appreciate people who speak their mind, I admire that. I also respect people who stand up for people no matter what the cost. I would have done it for anyone, it just didnt have to be herm. I am really worn out trying to defend myself. I have had way to much of that in the past two years, yet I still feel I have to continue because of this ordeal. I am not always right, but I am not always wrong either. I am human and I make mistakes. But I am also a good person who admits when I am wrong. I am not convinced that I was wrong. I am actually thinking I was right to not be in a place I felt was safe, later to learn it probably wasn't safe at all. Well, as long as I conformed to others thoughts it was safe, the minute mine didnt jive with one persons, I knew I was in another situation that my voice did not matter.
As far as the problems go on the other site. I really do not think you or anyone else can list one time I created a problem. I never attacked anything anyone said, and I tried to be very supportive when I felt someone needed support. I have the ability to be a soft gal, but I must really be thankful that I kept my ability to be a tough chick too. That is how I survived my ordeal with the N. I just can not let go of that side of me and I know you are the same way. We are survivors, all of us have to be to get through this.
Acappella:
Bobbe,
about being logged in or not - that happens on this site. It times out and I haven't found a way to detect if I am really logged in - as you noted it still can have your name next to 'Log out' and yet you are no longer logged in.
I emailed the moderator/manager here, R Grossman, and he acknowledged the difficulty that situation poses and yet it is a technical constraint. I tried the preview button and it does help with previewing code use results/formatting but it didnt indicate if I was still logged in or not. You can check auto login but then anyone who uses your computer will get auto logged in also. And, I have heard that it stores info in the computer that can confuse other sites etc - a bank site I've logged into on line told me that.
Nike:
Youre absolutey right Mindy, I'm sorry you are stressed about this as I am too....heck even a broken watch is right at least once a day, huh?
Love ya, it's ok...I miss you and hope and herm and I have no beefs with any of you....I was only trying to better understand the situation.
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