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acapella and the other n-partners
Acappella:
If your feelings were hurt go ahead and say so if you want me to respond to that, including if you want me to apologize, for example. Meanwhile, I’ll just address what was said.
Yes I can be paranoid. Also, had I imagined that Sandahl would have deleted posts in such an odd fashion and especially had I thought about a manager of a site called NPartners kicking people off like she did I would have felt paranoid for having such a thought. Now I am realizing I was naive. It is all a continuum.
I asked questions and did not feel I was accusing you. I’ll keep it in mind as I read over these posts again. Can you please be specific as to what you felt was accusatory?
By the way, a lack of empathy is not a shameful thing, in my estimation. I don't empathize with everyone, not even nearly everyone, and certainly not all the time with those I do. Who does? I don’t expect you to.
As far as identities, for all any of us know there could be someone with multiple personalities posting or people posting under all sorts of pretense etc. Not knowing for sure is the reality of this media's limitations and human limits too (such as time to read all of this, a desire to belong etc.) I don't pretend (especially not so much now) to know who exactly I am dealing with unless I have paid attention and even then it takes a lot of time to know someone. I am learning that again and again and again,each time with a bit more nuance, detail etc. If I waited until I knew everything and was sure I was right I would still be in bed – heck I’d still be in my crib.
Yes I may have confused you lisa Blondish 2002 with Sandahl etc. In part I did so because I felt I noticed a similar, very similar, tone. By the way I don't think Sandahl is some sort of evil person anyway. I am angry at her behavior and I don't trust her.
--- Quote ---This might sound a bit awful but we didnt really have any problems at the N board until you appeared
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It sounds laughable to me. I am just not that powerful. No human is.
P.S. a broken watch is right twice a day.
Echo
Jaded911:
A broken watch is right atleast one time a day, heehee, now that is funny. Guess I never thought about it, it actually is right just once a day. See lisa, learn something new everyday.
Now I am really mad at someone on here, I just broke one of my fingernails typing this.
Jaded911:
I am learning that again and again and again,each time with a bit more nuance, detail etc. If I waited until I knew everything and was sure I was right I would still be in bed – heck I’d still be in my crib.
Heehee this is funny too. Thank you girls, you freggin made me laugh. Not one time, two. Hells bells, who would a thunk it?
Acappella:
page 5 of this thread,
--- Quote ---I'll also ask who the hell I want to return to a board they once loved and that I participate in if I want. I told them POSTS AGO, that I wasnt going to ask them that again and I havent.
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--- Quote ---understand what went wrong on MY forum
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That sounds like Sandahl to me Nike. Can you understand how I might feel that was written by Sandahl?
I don't feel offended if or when someone says they feel I acted narcissistic or whatever, paranoid even (can you imagine?). Especially someone I am not connected with. I could be disapointed in myself or what I percieve to be the other persons lack of knowledge of me. A lot depends on my level of connection with the other person. Frankly that is one of the built in boundaries and safety mechanisms here in internet land. It is far more condusive an environment for taking time to build connections and listening very very carefully to what is being written.
Honestly, I cannot claim to care for anyone on this board or any other board beyond a very limited version of caring. I don't really know any of you beyond what you have written and my recollection of what was written and my interpretation of what was written, nor you me. Lets be real here.
I am just begining to form some more solid feelings about some folks who post here and I am more prepared than ever to be wrong.
bunny:
Look Herm or Bunny or whoever you are, I"m not here to argue with anyone! I'm just trying to understand what went wrong on MY forum and if you dont like that I'm sorry. Alot of people left that I truly liked alot and I wanted to know why.
Here is the lowdown:
(1) Sand attacked me personally in some posts. I felt unsafe, that I had to leave immediately. I said a brief goodbye post so people wouldn't think I had died. That was all I felt I could do, or had to do. There was no private conversation between me and Sandahl.
(2) As a result, some people shared their feelings about my leaving, or the way the group was run, and Sand banned them or kicked them off the group. She also erased a number of explanatory posts so people did not know what was going on, because she felt the posts criticized her.
(3) Some of us were notified through various ways that this group was available for processing our feelings. That's what we're doing.
I guess you are upset about the disruption on N-partners, that it was a nice place until "this" happened, and you are upset and angry about it. That is a shame, I agree, but things change in life.
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