If everyone doesn't mind I would like to share a letter I received this afternoon in the mail from X N's attorney. The letter was addressed to the children's therapist with a cc to me and X N.
It reads as follows:
Dear Ms. S:
Both my client and I are somewhat concerned as to the fact that this matter has been lingering so long and it appears that there may not be positive success being made.
In addition, I am somewhat confused as to what you perceive your role is in this matter. Is it as a counselor for the children, is it for family counseling to enable Ms. H and Mr. R to communicate with each other, or is it as an evaluator or mediator?
Awaiting to hear from you, I am.
Sorry, but I can't seem to stop venting. Thanks for listening.
Mia
This letter is really bizarre. Correct me if I am wrong, any lawyers around, but I am under the impression that a lawyer takes instructions from a client, and then acts accordingly. In which case a letter from a lawyer would say 'my client is concerned about x, y and z, and has requested me to write to you for clarification of these matters.'
What struck me immediately from this lettter, however, is that the lawyer is writing not only on behalf of his client, but also for his own personal peace of mind. What is that all about?

He has no business being
somewhat concerned, except only on his client's behalf. He has no business saying 'I am somewhat confused' (Although, in a Freudian sense, it appears to be true.

).
Looks like the lawyer also doesn't know where the boundaries are between himself and his client. And if the N can do it to a lawyer, no wonder he can do it to a defenceless child.
In replying, if I replied at all to such a daft letter, I would request clarification of who is asking the questions, and on whose behalf. I would also agree with the comment that if this t is court ordered, the questions should be directed to the court, rather than anyone else. The court, as the appointee, ought to be the only body with the power to question, validate or invalidate the t. And it ought to do this in direct communication with the t, rather than anyone else.
In other words, butt out N and Nlawyercodependent.
