Ok, I am starting thread right and left, but anyway, here is something else that I have noticed in my 6 months of learning more about my family (and all of you all's crazy N families/husbands/brothers!):
There are a lot of nutty people in the world. Maybe it's this culture, but the nuttiness seems to be especially likely to have N tendencies.
I think (1) I trained myself not to notice it after a lifetime of it, and (2) because I didn't notice it, or accepted it, I ended up with it all around me, in my career (I chose the most N of careers, I think), in my relationships, friendships, everything.
But even apart from that. It's rampant! I recently hired someone to work on my house who was utterly incompetent (everything has to be redone now). When it was pointed out that for instance nails were sticking out of the wall (the pointy end), he would look very indignant, and say "those aren't nails, they are screws!" And stomp off. Finally, he said to me that I had "made him" flustgered and that he "couldn't work like this." He never once, even when things were cracked right through or completely falling apart, admitted to a bit of mistakes or wrongdoing. Everything was my fault, in fact, and (he told me) his work was wonderful, first rate, grandiosely wonderful, how things were done. Luckily I found someone to take over who is genuinely wonderful and not like that at all.
But-- Etc. At work at least a third of the interactions seem to be people pompously declaring utter b.s. which ranges from just a shading of the truth to an out and out lie. Many of the interactions appear to be just one person projecting onto another and the other returning the favor-- just ridiculous. It makes it uncomfortable to be there because everything seems to be met with a competitive arrogant response.
I've gotten so I can barely bear to watch television interviews because the celebrities (and politicians) are so N that it grates.
Anyway. Anyone else started noticing this? I know there is a possibility I am overusing/overapplying the term. But honestly I don't think I am!