Now that my therapist has opened another can of worms labeled "my friendships" -the one I initially didn't want to open because i thought it was fine, thank you very much! I find myself observing them, which I am not really happy doing as I am afraid what i will find...
I have a friend whom I thought I was close to. We hadn't seen each other for a while, she finally called me and said that she'd like to see me and she would pop around on the following tuesday to hang out in my flat and chill and catch up. I said that would be lovely. Tuesday came along, and at about 2pm I got a text from her saying that she forgot she had an appointment with the bank, and that she'd call me as soon as she was done.
I got a text from her a week later saying sorry that she forgot about the bank appointment, not mentioning that she had also promised to call me after it was finished with. I replied all along saying "no problem, lots of love" etc, as generally I wouldn't have a problem with this kind of thing. I hadn't heard from her for another few weeks until Thursday asking me if I'd like to come out with her and her mother who is in town this weekend. I phoned her back (left a voice message) saying, I was working those nights but would love to meet up with her for lunch before I go to work. No response.
I texted her yesterday telling her that her purse (which she left in my Mothers house when we went there to stay on a girly weekend away last month) had arrived in the post. She immediately got back to me wanting to know when I could bring her purse into work with me so she could pop in to pick it up. She said she was going to pop in to my work to see me yesterday, which she didn't. Now she can drop everything and collect her purse. It seems her purse has more worth than our friendship!
Oh God, am I seeing cracks in my friendships now too? Is nothing solid anymore?
Normally, I would let things like this slide as life is so hectic sometimes it's hard to catch up etc
I am now very hurt and angry at her and I will for the first time say it to her without reacting, which I am more inclined to do.
Am I over reacting?