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Simon46:
CC, I LOVED Your post. Your response is a great triumph. It does get easier to stand up for yourself each time you do it, doesn't it? Thank You so much for sharing that with us all.
Nancy D.:
Boy! I am impressed with your words to your mother. You are soooo right and it took a lot of courage to say what you had to say.
I had to really watch over my kids when they were little..because, and this may sound evil..I didn't want my Nmother to be poisoning their little minds. They obviously loved her so much, and didn't know any different. So the main thing is to enjoy your baby, don't expect any compliments from her, of course..and devote yourself to YOUR family. You are already doing the right thing. I recently did over a spare room for my two grandkids, one age 2, and the other born two weeks ago, in wonderful, brilliant primary colors, toybox, clouds on walls, names on painted wooden letters, looks like something out of a magazine...and plenty of toys. I was so proud of my efforts and I love to have the kids over at my house! My Nmother looked at the room and said "Well! You'd think they LIVE here! After all you've spent on this room, I don't think you should give them anything else for Christmas!"
My daughter and I got a laugh out of that...she said "What Nan meant was...why didn't you fix this room up for ME? instead of THEM?" How true! Good luck with your precious baby! We are all pulling for you. It will be a wonderful time in your life...You will begin to measure everything by 'before" or "after" he/she was born...that's how you will measure time!
Nancy D.:
How do we get around the username??I had to use Nancy D. instead of Nancy Drew...because it keeps saying that the name has already been used? --thanks
Karin:
Well done CC, thanks for letting us share in your Oscar-worthy drama! I have a feeling you'll be going from strength to strength from now on.
Just remember that you're the one who runs your life, not her. So when she calls on Friday, you don't NEED to tell her that you need more time. You simply don't want to go! Otherwise it will sound just like an excuse to her and you will loose some ground.
It's so good to see you stand up for yourself.[/quote]
I am mine:
CC, I am so sorry you had to go thru this, but holy sh*t - did you HANDLE it! You're MY new hero, too!
"Now it's your turn..."? Not a chance in the world, because you will do it totally differently than she did...the only "turn" is your turn to make a difference, and you will - you have already.
Son of a gun - I thought my Ndad was bad - this is going to keep me going for ages and make me feel downright lucky!
You did good, CC - keep it up, and please don't expect yourself to be perfect about this?
Personally, I think someone should make a heroic action figure in your image!
bobbie
(sorry for the "guest" status, but i couldn't get signed in and i HAD to reply!)
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