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Narcissists and codependency (drugs, sex, praise, etc.)?

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My Nmother is a "recovering" but falling off the wagon many times alchoholic... worse in the last 15 years since my father died.  In a few conversations in my adult life when I have asked her what the appeal was (an ACOA trying to understand her addiction)  she told me that she uses alchohol because she considers herself an artist and an intellect and needs to unwind (from what, her genius thought processes???)  That she has a hard time relating to the norm...PUULLLEEEEZ.. A perfect example of grandiosity.  She is the kind that binges, drinks completely alone and hides it from everyone.. a jekyll/hyde type -  engages in taboo activity with someone she hardly knows (one night stands, etc.) and has admitted that this is the only time she can "be herself" without regard to what others might think of her.   A very interesting thing, isn't it.

Discounted Girl:
My NQueenmother was addicted to valium and some other drug I cannot remember. She would call me up in the middle of the night to rush out there -- she was going to kill herself (while my Dad was at work). I would get a babysitter, drive in the ice and snow out to her house to find her with a gun laying on the floor and telling me about the lady with the veil. Total nut case. Then, I would say, get up mother and let's talk. Then, boy, she would let me have it -- hollering and screaming at me. She just needed an audience, it didn't matter that it was 2 am and below zero temp and I had to go to work the next morning. This went on for years, her bullying and using. My Dad also got hooked on something, I think it was also valium. They had this quack doctor who would give them anything they wanted. They had excellent insurance -- she used the hospital like a hotel. While they didn't drink, they were both pill poppers in their middle-age years. What is so ironic is that I never took drugs and neither did my children, at least I never found out about it. It was my parents who were the druggies. So are my brother's children, but no one is supposed to mention that.

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rosencrantz:
http://www.toad.net/~arcturus/dd/narc.htm - all about the addicted narcissist.  

I found it a very useful description of NPD.
R

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