Prettyflower,
I commend you on asking this very astute question. I have been researching this disorder continuously in the past weeks because, although I have declared that my mother is narcissistic in past years, I did not really understand the depth of my statements until the past weeks. When I realized that what myself and my family had been dealing with all these years was a bonafied psychiatic disorder, it was like a train without a whistle hit me broadside.
Information is empowerment. Of couse, we do not want to slap labels on people just because we do not understand them or because we have disagreements or even strong dislikes for them. But, there does come a time when all the pieces before you begin to form a very clear picture.
For me, it was the years and years and years of dysfunction. As time goes on it seems to get worse. My siblings and other family members who were formerly tolerant of my mother's behaviors began to speak up, which amazed me but also validated that I was not the only one who took notice that something was very wrong.
A firm diagnosis would be most desirable. I have no hopes for this in my situation, however. For now, I will live with the knowledge that I have, at least, some answers and some support as I trudge back into more recovery and healing.
ANewSheriff
