Voicelessness and Emotional Survival > What Helps?
HELP I am Emotionally exhausted after finding the truth of a cheating girlfriend
Healing&Hopeful:
--- Quote from: j_stice on November 16, 2005, 07:21:08 AM ---The problem is I am being actively prevented from doing this by HER friends some of whom I work with!
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I'm sorry but I don't quite understand this.... you said on your previous e-mail that you were forced to resign from one job because of her and relocate to another... how can you work with her friends?
I'd like to ask you this also, from your questions I feel I can tell what you'd like to achieve, which is personal space and a chance to move on, is that correct?... so..... What do you think you can do to change your situation to achieve this?
j_stice:
I was forced to leave one of my jobs because she had made "visits" to my employer when I wasn't there, I also do some volunteer work and have been forced to change where I do my volunteer work. I have been approached by one of her "friends" that I used to work with before I moved to another office.
Healing&Hopeful:
I appreciate how tough that must be and am sorry that you had to go through it... Have you thought about my second question at all....
I'd like to ask you this also, from your questions I feel I can tell what you'd like to achieve, which is personal space and a chance to move on, is that correct?... so..... What do you think you can do to change your situation to achieve this?
j_stice:
--- Quote from: Healing&Hopeful on November 17, 2005, 03:59:25 AM ---I appreciate how tough that must be and am sorry that you had to go through it... Have you thought about my second question at all....
I'd like to ask you this also, from your questions I feel I can tell what you'd like to achieve, which is personal space and a chance to move on, is that correct?... so..... What do you think you can do to change your situation to achieve this?
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A couple things break the problem into levels and address this accordingly.
(1) Start Therapy and continued until each of the stages is complete
(2) Any person who has direct contact with her I disassociate myself (and filter my calls and e-mails a little beter)
(3) Get a good support network in place to assist the therapy
Other than that I am a little short in the ideas department! But I am aiming to have a sincere, honest, faithful and normal relationship. So if you have any ideas please feel free make suggestions.
Healing&Hopeful:
j_stice hon, good for you for seeing the benefits of starting therapy. When do you start? I feel this will be good for you.
Also there may be groups in your area where you can meet others who have been through this kind of thing also, which could help in getting a good support network behind you.
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