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nightsong:
Hi again Acappella,

Thanks for your reply, and now I read your other posts too so I get what is going on for you. I hope you are still finding some peace in your partner's absence, sounds like you need the space for yourself very badly at the moment.

I was struck by what you said about your work. I too work with troubled adolescents, in schools.  For a while I worried that I was too messed up myself to be a suitable person for these kids but now I believe we have a special insight that allows us to connect with them in a way that 'normal' people just can't. I so agree, beneath all the tough posturing they are frightened and vulnerable. I work in a very Person-Centred way, and I think the experience of being with an adult who tries to offer them empathy and lack of judgement is helpful to them. It sure puts some of my life experiences in perspective too, some of the things they have been through are so horrific.

The work is quite isolating in a way though, I don't have colleagues like I would in an office for example, and I think you were referring to this too? Not sure what the solution to this one might be.

We (my husband and I) went to our first ever Buddhist meditation class just before Christmas. I found it quite strange and alienating in a way, but the people there were lovely - very open and welcoming. We all stayed on to drink tea and talk afterwards. Mostly they were in their twenties and thirties I would say. We are probably going back when they start again in February, for a short course. I have though also about going to a Quaker group, which is something I did in my teens and have very fond memories of. Like you, I think, I'm searching for a group of people to feel some connection with, and it's hard in a materialistic and competitive world. Some of them are right here on this board though!

Wishing you peace in the New Year,

nightsong

Anonymous:
Acapella,

Most adults are in some way messed up from their childhoods. So you will always have to deal with dysfunction in other people. It helps to understand human behavior so you can strategize when you see certain patterns, and make decisions on whether this person is friendship material or not.

When I meet someone who is mature (level-headed, non-hysterical, flexible, sense of humor, philosophical, not overly defensive), I feel VERY LUCKY. But these people are rare.

bunny

Avery:
Acapella:

I have only been married for 2 years, so I really don't feel qualified to give any advice yet.javascript:emoticon(':wink:')  I just wanted to give you a ((((((Acapella))))) and hope that you're feeling better.  

Avery

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