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Tamara J:
Rob,
I am so sorry to hear that story. How disturbing that must have been for her and for you to remember. Disgusting behavior of these people.

At one time I knew that my mother had been sexually abused somehow, but I heard the information second hand and she never admitted to it when I asked her about it. You have to wonder if this is the reason she became who she is.

Strangely enough about Ns and their sexual behavior. My mother is 57, I am 34. When my husband and I first got married 8 years ago, she would outwardly flirt with him. It was embarrasing. I never felt threatened by it, but why she was doing it was just strange. She would go so far as to compare herself to me and even grope him in front of her own family and husband. He felt uncomfortable. I never confronted her on it as I felt it would just embarrass her, but it was still strange.

write:
that is horrible.

I have an early memory of an unspecified traumatic event, though sometimes I have thought it was my mother trying to catch my grandfather out in child abuse with me or my sister, both under five years...it was all so contrived...any way, my mother was banned from her parents home for years and we were terrified of her father, who we saw once or twice a year, probably because he was my father's supervisor and for a few years could lose my father's job.

It was all a weirdness, because we were too young for permanent memories, and my mother was too mad/ alcoholic ( and believe me I'm not doing the usual American: alcoholism= heavy drinking thing here )  for anything really.
My father, Mr Borderline, took charge for occasional ten minute intervals. Which confused things greatly.

What I don't get is
WHEN I LET MY CHILD DOWN, I COMPENSATE, EVEN OVERCOMPENSATE. I do anything to prevent him pain.
WHY WERE MY PARENTS NOT LIKE THIS?????????????????????
They knew, but they chose not to know....
Then they chose not to acknowledge.
Then they ignored our struggles to cope.

I AM FULL OF HATE WHEN I think of things in their right context.

NO ONE EVER HAS OR WILL ABUSE MY CHILD, that is the only sense I can make of my life.

Also I teach him about abusiveness and not to harm others.

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