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Anika:
Isn't the title of this message board "voicelessness?"

I find it rather ironic that you would silence people for stating their opinion (even if it is negative) on a message board that has specifically been set up to talk about voicelessness!

Furthermore, the whole "it's time to move on" is dictating how long we can discuss an issue. What is the purpose of that? I only got to read and respond to a few of the threads that you deleted.

You are treating us like children who need supervision, not like adults who need an outlet. Yes, some here act like children, but that is a part of the healing process. Going back and rereading the hateful, childish writings of one's self can be very eyeopening. Also, the candid responses of others can sometime hit the nail right on the head.

If you sensor these kinds of interactions you will be undermining the very purpose of this site! I know that you have worked hard to create this message board for us and I thank you very much for doing so. I do agree that name calling, racial slurs, and cursing should not be allowed, but it really bothers me that you would delete threads that, for whatever reason, you just don't like .

VS:
I feel strongly that in order for this message board, (and also for any therapy) to be effective, it must be "safe" for participants.  In this particular case, as most if not all participants have been "voiceless" - that is, wounded by narcissistic abuse,  this is essential.

I have been following this board, and have read the posts in question. I think that Dr. Grossman was correct in removing the posts that he did, as they were in fact, quite abusive and damaging. I in no way believe that having a "voice" gives anybody the right to be abusive.

I congratulate Dr. Grossman in having the conviction to do this, and to make this a safe place for all of us.  Thank-you.

Anonymous:
At heart, the deleted threads were just another strand of the ongoing faction fighting that dominates the self designated "NPD community".

It's never about truth or reality, nor about real people and their real pain. It's not even about real ideas, because I often see people who allege bitterly opposing views "ganging up" as a matter of expediency.

The trouble is that doesn't leave anywhere for the people who just want to be honest, share and learn from each other, be themselves and speak their thoughts freely, they are left truly "voiceless".

I hope Dr Grossman can always keep the faction fighting out of here, heaven knows they have plenty of "NPD Community" to play with elsewhere!

And incidentally, I'm not sure NPD IS an acronym for "Voicelessness and Emotional Survival".

rosencrantz:
I intended to agree that NPD is a form of voicelessness - then realised that it is qualitatively different. Having been silenced by their childhood experiences, 'narcissists' create new voices with which to silence others. Their 'victims' have yet to find a voice.

It is right to let them each have their space to find their voice.  But not in the same space.  Together they are not a happy - or healthy - mix.

R

Enlightened(now):
I agree with you Rosencrantz, there's a place for NPD's and survivors, but not the same place. . . . like oil and water

Thank you Dr. Grossman for moderating and making this a safe place again.   Blessings to all.    :wink:

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