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Recognizing certain narcissistic behaviors in myself

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CeeCee:
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Wow, I see certain behaviors I have that resemble (are?) the narcissist's.  Always have I dreaded being like my mother, like a bad joke, the yuck is on me........but there is so much of me that is not N-ish.---

pennyplant:
Okay, somebody else has to go first with listing how N ish they are.   :wink:

Pennyplant

Healing&Hopeful:
Hiya CeeCee & PP

This I can relate to.... I think the most important thing to recognise is that there is healthy narcissism.  Healthy narcissism is important to our own health, our own well being.

I think that because we know what N's are like, when we see some in ourselves we immediately think yuck!  (ok... I'm talking about me here, rather than we!)

But I think one of the sure things which confirms we are not an N is compassion.  If I have compassion for someone else, if I can understand where they are coming from, if I can put myself in their shoes, then I feel safe in the knowledge that I'm not an N, even if I do have narcisstic traits.

Kind regards


H&H

Portia:
CeeCee compare yourself to everything on this website and then ask the question

http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/howto.html

Particularly the part ‘Now we are six’.

If you’re on this board and hoping to relate to other real human beings, to share and gain knowledge, to be honest and vulnerable, then heck, that’s a good indicator of a functioning adult human (which is what narcissists certainly are not).

pennyplant:
On one of the other threads there is a website listed where you answer fifty questions and then you get a score of narcissism based on 100 as the highest possible score.  Went and took the test and got a 33.   :shock:  (zero to 20) was non-narcissistic.  My results were mild narcissism with suppression I think it was.  You can go further on the site and see a list of famous people who would score in your category.  Mine was similiar to Michael J. Fox and Jane Fonda.  And, really, I'm not all that shocked.  Once I read an interview with Jane Fonda when she published her latest book and some of the stuff she said and the topics she was interested in and the way she presented them--reminded me of myself.  And I have often thought, it's a good thing I had a hard life in some ways, because I might have been awfully full of myself otherwise.  It's hard for me to be specific about N-spots, but they are in there to be sure.  Need to put some more thought into it.

PP

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