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Hopalong

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Re: falling apart...
« Reply #15 on: May 03, 2006, 08:53:12 PM »
Write,
SO glad you got some sleep and help.

You too, Moon.

You are both extremely brave and open.
I admire you very much.

Hops
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« Reply #16 on: May 03, 2006, 10:40:40 PM »
write,
Thanks for updating me on the plane. I heard about it on the news in the morning, but then couldn't find anything abou tit later in the day. I am glad to hear it landed safely.
Beth
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Re: falling apart...
« Reply #17 on: May 05, 2006, 04:00:12 AM »
well it's almost 3 am & I'm wide awake! Hope you're asleep Moonlight...

Going to go take a pill.


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« Reply #18 on: May 05, 2006, 04:24:42 AM »
 Write, It is almost one in the morning here. I like yourself  am wide awake and I am going to take a pill .Thanks for
hoping anyway .Write that is all I need really the understanding I AM EVER SO GRATEFUL. I wish we did not have to deal with this stuff. But it is a comfort to know you understand.
I hope my silly pill will start to help me close me eyes . I do wish both of us more sleep.
nite nite
Write ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Moonlight                        My appointment with shrink is soon
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Re: falling apart...
« Reply #19 on: May 05, 2006, 07:11:30 AM »
well, I barely slept last night, but it's given me some perspective: need a new psychiatrist.

Forget the other one. Her problems are her business.

Cool!

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I can cope I think if I stay home and quiet, my son probably disagrees though, it means he has to be mindful.
Maybe that's a goodthing some ways.

Ex is struggling to cope.
Strange how everything still leans on me...I want them to go away and just take care of themselves and business. Give me a break! Never happens like that though.

Never...

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Ex has a top job, can work whenever he pleases, no one ever questions his coming or going.
He's considered one of the top people in his field.

Yet there's never any benefits to us as a family, he insists on workign like a junior and any attempts by me to get him to quit overworking are futile.

I'm beginning to see how he does so much stressing me even now.

Last night there were flash floods here with storms, he was calling me.

Earlier I went on a fool's errand to the bank, he asked me to.

We are too much involved; he is already clutching his fevered brow because I am sick again....

I know I'm rambling but I am so tired of being there for him and he thinks he's there for me and he's not wholly.
Two sentences later and it's always about him.

But he's as good as it gets? That's been my experience, and who is going to want me now, all these issues and problems?

Some big triggers this month: the new friendship, the psychiatrist weird behaviour, too much work, ex acting out...

maybe too much thinking, not enough medication...











Hopalong

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Re: falling apart...
« Reply #20 on: May 05, 2006, 08:35:38 AM »
Aww, Write, you're having a rough go.
That's a lot of stress, needing to change shrinks. What a strong decision.

Sounds to me like you're handling this bout as best you can, and that your ex is doing two sentences worth of a great job... Almost a relief to hear you mention his limits, you're so kind about him all the time.

I was just thinking how much energy must be coursing through you. What does it feel like? Being mentally cranked up but physically exhausted, is the best I can guess. Maybe times two.

Wishing you less stress and more rest,
Hops
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Re: falling apart...
« Reply #21 on: May 05, 2006, 10:15:56 AM »
Hi, I'm an insomniac too!   Have any of you tried melatonin.. it works pretty well.  It usually makes me want to sleep within 30 minutes and it's a natural hormone.  No side-effects and no addictions.  Okay I better go ..I'm sounding too much like a commercial.   :)

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« Reply #22 on: May 05, 2006, 12:42:37 PM »
  Write ,I like what Hops says " Less stress and more Rest" Thank you Hops for what you suggested about watching children's films . Even my 13 year old will be up on a Saturday morning watching "Babe" or some Disney film. My hubby
serious Mr.Science loves to watch Disney with us Saturday mornings.One time my hubby and our 2 girls were watching
"Land before Time" a cartoon film.Well in it the mom dinosaur died and we looked over at hubby (dad) and he had his eyes
all watered up and was all sad,(TEARS ROLLING DOWN HIS CHEEKS) the cartoon mom dinosaur died .It was so sweet .Our great big strong hero, crying over the cartoon mom dinosaur.
He is CUTE .Moral of the story cartoons can bring the best out of people.
WRITE I am wishing for more rest for you !
Hugs
moon
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« Reply #23 on: May 05, 2006, 01:06:50 PM »
yes, loads of energy, finished tons of correspondence; looked over it too, sometimes it can be a bit disjointed.
I did fall asleep about 7 but my neighbour woke me at 9...wanted to use my printer.

Yes ex has limits! I spent a lot of time a couple of years ago ranting about them.
He means well, he's considering going back into therapy. Hope he does, I don't have much spare energy yet and he doesn't realise when he's leaning on me.

The thing with the psychiatrist is so like every other relationship  :o
I'm stunned she would act out with me, but I've decided I don't have the inclination to get into it with her.
I don't trust her as my doctor, end of story.
If I start talking to her about it or complain the outcome is still the same except I've wasted more energy on something which shouldn't have happened.

It shouldn't should it? It was her responsibility to behave professionally.
But that's a problem with my life, people seldom seem to behave themselves!
My parets, my exes...now the doctor!

The previous dr I couldn't take to, she had a lot of n-traits, interrupting, domineering; I felt brow-beaten.

I'd really like to do build up a trust relationship with a doctor; pity so many are so 'N-like' that's a problem!

Haven't tried melatonin there's some downstairs; my ex uses it sometimes for jetlag.

I remember Land Before Time. Cartoons can be really sad, especially when they remind you of children now grown up!

Ok, time for a shower and a walk; I'll try and keep my routine the same sleep or no sleep.

What does it feel like? Being mentally cranked up but physically exhausted,

it's having tons of energy but no organisation, starting 10 things and not finishing, talking fast, everyone else is too slow, impatience.

The exhaustion comes a day or two or sometimes longer...probably not too much this week because I have had sleep here and there.

Sometimes if I can focus it's really good, I can get something out of the way that's needed doing.


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« Reply #24 on: May 05, 2006, 04:16:51 PM »
Hi Write. Sorry your sleep is soooo trashed. shitty space to be in. I totally relate, as you know. I' haven't been taking my Seroquel for weeks now and I keep saying it's because my memory is so impaired that I forget. Or is it? I seem to be able to take my other meds o.k., although even there, I'm no longer right on track. It's that time of year for me when winter ends, the old mood starts lifting and I know I deliberately,( laced liberally with denial!! Hee hee!!!) "forget" to be diligent with sleep meds etc. Although cocaine was one of the few drugs that weren't my thing!!!- I feel in that mode. totally revved up, speedy, flying too high, starting to spin outta control, concentration impaired, memory fried, not taking care of myself. Up all night for a few days or only getting 2-3 hrs. sleep and feeling fanfuckingtastic- pardon my Latin!...at first! Doesn't take long, does it, for that " feeling tooo great" to start going for a shit pretty quick, eh?! I'm in a really disorganized stage right now- just had a friend do my taxes and here i was thinking- delusional!- I was on top of things, getting loads of coin back...and then...ya guessed it! Seems my ciphering and record keeping was a tad off track and I owe money....lots of it!!!!!! No memory of funds i cashed in over last year to support me and my then N boyfriend- who I allowed to drain my bank account and who I supported financially under the guise of his " depression"( read...N and sex addict). Waves of anger and frustration right now with and at myself for being sucked in and choosing to suppport a sick person over myself and my best interests!!! A true measure of how sick I was last year- relapse of addcition, mentally ill, barely coping- but not asking for help or even acknowledging I had a problem---or a hundred! Even though I'm not glued together at the moment, I'm much better than last year. Not totally isolating, have supportive Friends and healthy ones!!! Almost slept last night- Almost!!!! Had just taken a pill and suddenly saw a gigantic spider running across the Floor. And I mean...Gigantic!!!! I am terrified of spiders and this one was one of those huge, black, wolf spiders- you know the kind- larger than a small dog, meat eaters, move furniture etc!!!! Hee hee!!! I have been known to call people in the middle of the night in hystercis- and i don't mean, laughing!- to ask them- in no uncertain terms!- to please come over and remove large spiders!!!!! No takers last night though!!!! How ridiculous for a grown woman to be so terrified of an insect!!! I have three large felines and one of them loves eating spiders, bees, hornets etc. He chased this Frankenspider for a few minutes, got bored, curled up and went to sleep!!!! Damn him!!!! I, once I had my coronary sorta under control!!- ran into my bedroom, stuffed towels along the door, turned on all my lights, sat up in my bed with my head swivelling 360 degrees pretending to " read" for severalhours almost till dawn. Hmmmm!!!!! If ONE of you is SO gargantuan, WHERE are your friends????? Gyawd!!!!!! Sooo...after about an hour of sleep, I got up and opened the door cautiously, I ran around my living room and kitchen poking everything- piles of papers, shoes etc- with a yardstick looking for you know who!!! I've been out all day dealing with taxes and applying for unemployment insurance on line- another cerebral Herculean delite!!!!! NOT!!!!- so I picture my nemesis in my place, watching T.V.- perhaps a Natrue show on...insects...you know...delicious, soft, squishy ones!!!- perhaps fortifying itself on my cats' crunchies every now and then, maybe even using my credit cards to order out!!!!! I wax idiotic!!! Hee hee!!!! I have to admit I'm still able to enjoy the giddy ridiculous thinking!!!!!!! enough of my ranting!!!! Hope you get some sleep, Write and all other insomniacs!!!!! I'm going over to my boyfriend's tonight- i think the spider and my cats need some quality alone time!!!! Hee hee!!! Hugs, Moira
I've just ended abusive relationship of 1 yr. with male narcissist. I cycle between stages of anger and grieving and have accepted it. Hope I've alienated him so he won't recontact me- is this possible?     Moira

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Re: falling apart...
« Reply #25 on: May 05, 2006, 04:29:47 PM »
oh Moira hope your b/f provides a safe haven for tonight; I'm sure the cats will take care of the spider.

I use 'Raid Max' along the skirting boards and in every corner, seems to keep creepy things at bay.

My taxes are all sound- thanks to ex h; so I guess I can forgive him a lot  :)

Seroquel is excellent for bipolar mania, but I've found at higher doses I'm very sleepy. Sometimes that's a good thing of course...

I never 'forget' to take it but sometimes when I'm manic I choose not to....

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