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Anonymous:
Hi Jazz,
It sounds to me that he's a narcissist; he has not reciprocated your friendship, he has used it and you. Reading between your very well written lines, you seem desperate to understand his way of thinking. You'll never understand a narcissist. The best you can do is understand that he has a problem and you need to find what your place was in all of this, from your perspective. He may be missing you, but only because he no longer has his Jazz running around after him. I too was the one that did all the running around for my soon-to-be exN husband for 25 years. He probably will hate you for abandoning him. (You didn't, but that will be how he construes it). Be prepared for gossip and lies that may reach your ears from other sources. Who knows if he will try and contact you again? Be prepared once again, but hope that he doesn't. They are good manipulators, as you know. And I would suggest that you don't contact him. Perhaps you knew subconsciously that something wasn't right when you put forward your request that he not be late. A test almost. You got your answer. What I find most telling is that he didn't even attempt to accomodate you; just a flat 'won't do it'.
It's only when a relationship has ended do we see and remember things and start putting them into perspective. It's a continuing process, but one day you get to the point where you can let go and your life starts to become 'yours' again.
Karin.

phoenix:
bye

rosencrantz:
Hi Jazz - LOL  I feel you're telling us that you put your hand in the fire and it hurt but the flames were so pretty that really perhaps you should do it again!!!

I guess it's a free world and if you want to it's up to you.  But I want you to understand that by the time you start to realise that the smell of burning flesh is yours, you'll have lost the free will that would allow you to take your hand out again!

Yes, he's probably a narcissist.

Yes, he treated you like a commodity, slave, servant, etc and it felt good being needed and being wanted and having a purpose and being kept busy (with no time to think about your own problems).

If he's a narcissist he never was anything but manipulative towards you which suggests that he was always indifferent to you and so that won't have changed.  The only thing he will miss is what he can get out of you that he can't manipulate out of someone new.

You ask, Is it likely that he would do what he said, and never contact me again?  

Be grateful and hope that he keeps to his word!

You ask, If I contacted him again, what sort of response would I be likely to get?  

Depending on his need of the moment, either something spiteful and hurful or something manipulative to get you meeting his needs again on a more regular basis.

Narcissists are addictive.

Don't inhale!!  ;-)

Hugs and good luck
R

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