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Anonymous:
Hi Portia!
I am truly sorry if I have in anyway caused you any anxiety. I can only speak for myself, of course, but I was not thinking of you when I responded to Avery's post, just speaking in general.
Hey, I can be as confrontational as the best of them, but I find that I am pretty good at discerning whether that will be helpful to the person I am speaking to or whether that person just needs a good old fashioned hug. Now, that's my approach, but my approach may not always work, or be the best approach, so it's great to have others with different approaches as well. And I think the fact that you "felt sick to your stomach" at the thought that we might have been referring to you takes you out of the "mean-spirited" poster category. Such a person would say, "Screw you and what you think." or atleast would think it, that's my opinion.
Yes, some times pissing someone off is the best way to make an impression. I find that I'll sit back and fume, and them self-relfection sneaks up on me, and in a room with my therapist we explore whether or not that person is right!
Some people, however, haven't learned how to do that, and are very good at beating themselves up. Maybe there's a better way to be direct. I don't know. I think your posts were direct, but not offensive. I was speaking about an anonymous "Guest" with narcisstic undertones to their advice. But hey, I could be wrong about that as well.
Alas, I am infallably human!!!! :(
Jacmac, as guest:
Ooops, that's me above! I can't log in on this computer.
And I'm still trying to figure out if that makes sense "infallably human"
or should I have said "fatally human" -- oh, well, you guys know what I mean. I hope. :oops:
tayana:
Portia,
"Guest" is probably a default sign in. The only way not to allow postings from "guest" would be for the board owner to block the ability for people who are not logged in to post. That can only be done by the administrator of the site. That is the way most messageboards work.
Hope that helps.
hope2003:
I haven't posted in awhile, although i have been reading to posts. I want to weigh in on this topic since I was on the Npartners board and was one of the people who was kicked off.
I happen to agree with CC. Some members are more direct in their approach. I haven't found anything offensive to date.
I think that it is the responsibility of the person who is feeling slighted to speak up to the person whom they believe slighted them. Hopefully, that will put an end to any bad feelings. We must assume that advice is given in our best interests. Just as therapists have different styles of communication, so do members of this board. If someone communicates in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it is the poster's choice to ignore the advice.
Personally, I welcome straight advice. It is my style of communication and it resonates with me. I realize it isn't the same for eveyone. but, to start singling out members and chastize them for a different communication style is wrong, and was the problem with the Npartners board.
There is room for everybody and all opinions.
Hope
phoenix:
bye
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