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Discounted Girl:
Avery,
Are you handling the Superbowl frenzy ok? Well, I have not thought of it as a dark presence here (after our Nmothers can there be anything darker?) but I have sometimes wondered who all these "guest" postings are -- and what all that arguing about being kicked off some other board was all about, but I read and post here to be a ventor and a ventee. I have gained a tremendous amount of knowledge and do in fact feel better since joining this group. I think that for each of us our "reality" is personal and special only to us and how we perceive it to be. This is a cyber world, built on the abstract and I don't put any more into it than that. I feel no pressure here and nobody is forced to read a post, even if it is addressed to them. Given the backgrounds from which most of us come, a less than encouraging message on a forum should be easy to ignore.
rosencrantz:
Hi Portia - I haven't been reading the board for some time so I don't know who or what is being referred to here but I'm quite sure it isn't you.
I've had a quick look to see what you might have posted today and I see that you have been clear, assertive and truthful.
And I know how being clear and assertive can make the 'victim' of an N (that's you and me) feel fearful that the world will fall down around our ears (because we know that Ns don't like our truth and punish us for it)!! I have been there myself.
Take heart that being clear and truthful is NOT damaging to normal souls - you are simply fearing that others will react like the Ns in your life.
And if you read the posts on this thread carefully you will see that they are referring in particular to some anonymous 'guest' - so that's not you, either!
Courage, mon brave! Stick with your truth even tho it makes you feel anxious. The rest of us 'victims of Ns' love you for it cos we're struggling to speak our truth, too. :-)
R
CC:
Portia dear, I really don't think this reference by Avery was to you.
Avery - I have re-read through some recent posts and honestly, I am having trouble identifying the individual that you are implicating. However, I may not be as sensitive as others so I think it is good that you are drawing attention to it if you think someone is being hurtful.
There are a couple of people here that have always had a more direct way of pointing things out that sometimes we cannot see ourselves, and quite honestly I find it refreshing. I know personally, I have welcomed when someone has metaphorically slapped me in the face here with a "snap out of it!" approach! As victims of Ns we sometimes tend to stick our head in the proverbial sand of denial.
I don't think this is what you are referring to however, and those people usually name themselves (I am not afraid of naming example names since they've been helpful to me - Bunny and Rosencrantz? ) Additionally, I don't think that "critical" is the word that would be accurate to describe those two posters anyway. So my guess is you are referring to someone relatively new that is not clearly identified.
Anyway, just wanted to "exonerate" a couple of the people that express themselves very directly here and that I find helpful on this board in case their was any question in their minds. Hopefully others agree with me.
Additionally, now that you have drawn attention to this situation I'm sure the rest of us regulars will definitely keep a watchful eye. Mean-spirited people are not welcome here.
In the meantime, for newcomers or anyone feeling unsafe, remember you don't have to allow people's opinions here to penetrate. Take advice and support with a grain of salt - you can take only what you want and leave the rest for someone else. It is a good test to trust your new found voice, too - and learn better how to identify if something is making you feel "wrong".
I think the fact that people like Avery are here looking out for each of us confirms that this truly IS a safe place - because the minute something feels "wrong" it is met with strength!
Thanks for the heads up!
Guest:
testing this name
Anonymous:
another test, I'm tryin to get to the bottom of this! sorry...just let me mutter to myself here...Portia
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