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"Don't Tell! Don't Feel! Don't think!" Common?
phoenix:
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Anastasia:
Phoenix, got you! Surely--since you were there--you are right about why he bought a car for his other daughter. Makes total sense albiet a misguided decision.
I guess my personality is radically different from most here as I never "tried so hard" to gain favor with my crazy Nparents. I knew I would never win and just gave up trying to gain their favor...and just attempted to "save" myself. Mostly this meant staying out of their way and not giving them anything to bitch at me about if I could help it.
Of course, you can find anything to complain about on anyone if you look for it--nobody is perfect (not even Mother Teresa)--and their favorite pastime was "let's pick on Anastasia." My stepfather even bitched one time about how I walked in too small a step (my "glide" was too short)--that one was even funny at the time although I tried to act like I really was concerned. I just always knew they were nuts and tried to stay out of their way until I could get away from that hellhole.
Again, the VICTIM is usually the HEALTHIEST one is a dysfunctional family as they see what is REALLY going on.
Thanks for explaining the situation in better terms. I can only guess at some things--without enough further explanation--using my own experiences with Nparents as a base. Sorry, I really am trying to help, and, of course, am subject to wrong interpretations. Thanks for explaining.
phoenix:
bye
Anastasia:
Phoenix: 3rd paragraph and first line of your post for Feb. 6 at 4:09 pm said you "tried so hard" is where I got that idea. Maybe you meant to say something else?
What I am saying about myself is I didn't even try as I knew there was nothing I could do to win anyone's love as my stepfather was jealous of me always and my Nmother didn't care ultimately at all for anyone but herself and her needs being filled. I just got my needs filled elsewhere but the house.
phoenix:
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