I've been sitting here, thinking about the few times there has been conflict on this board...there is always a common denominator in these situations.
What I see as the common denominator here, is two-fold. First, the dysfunction in the people here, as a result of a traumatic, abusive, neglectful past and therefore the tendency to REACT rather than RESPOND in many situations. The tendency to be a bit volatile to try and evoke a response in the other person, in order to be heard too.
The second thing is the ability to delete posts. In real life, once words are spoken, they CANNOT BE TAKEN BACK. Personally, I think it's a deception to be able to erase what you post. I don't think it should be able to be done.
When there are people who are easily triggered by pretty much anything that is said or done, and when people are able to erase what they've said and what others respond to it, it leaves a sense of having BEEN HUMANLY ERADICATED once again, as in childhood. Those people who have said they feel like they are dealing with N's all over again, are not so very far from the truth.
Just some observations here.
~Laura
