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gratitude28

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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #15 on: August 15, 2006, 12:05:08 AM »
(((((((((((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((((((R)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

(((((((((((((((((((((((((Friends and family)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

This is something that is hard for me to deal with too. It is hard not to ask, "Why?" And I fear dying, I must admit. Someone told me once that their religion says that a person dies when he or she has become as good as he/she can be in life and have accomplished what they needed to accomplish. It's a nice though at any rate.

Take care of yourself and be glad that you could be such a great comfort to your friend.
Love, Beth
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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #16 on: August 15, 2006, 12:52:57 AM »
Thanks, ((((MS))))
Write, thank you for taking the trouble to type that. It is so beautiful...I am thinking of sending it to R's partner.
Beth, I know what you mean. I was with my father for a long period as his night nurse every weekend for six months and then alll the time in the last few days of his life...I watched so closely. Cancer had made him skeletal, but he was a radiant person. The pain was controlled and I believe he found peace. I was holding his hand when he died, and alone with him. We had beautiful music playing. He released his last fears, and I remember telling him, trust, go toward the light, and it was as though even though he couldn't speak I could feel him agreeing, cooperating, showing he was going into the light. I will never forget the look of wonder on his face.

I know R's death will be similar. She will be surrounded by love and touched only by loving hands.

I'm not afraid of death. Not too keen on pain, but most of the time, there's good control. Morphine.

One thing about R. She brought so many people together. The church will be filled with singng, the local women's choir, a famous country singer who was her childhood friend, flowers and so many people who loved her. She will be, as you said  Write, leaving such a legacy of beauty.

It's just hard that she is having to leave it all behind, at 54. She loved life so much, and made so much beauty from it. She was so eager to keep painting, wanted to so much. But it's her time and I believe she has accepted it.

I hope I'll have half her courage when the time comes.

Thanks, all, I feel your sympathetic hearts.

Hops
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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #17 on: August 15, 2006, 03:43:34 AM »
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HOPS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

PEACE BE MY HEART SO VERY MOVING

I saw the same look of wonder on my mothers face............

54 is very young (((((((((((((((((((((((((((HOPS FRIEND)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #18 on: August 15, 2006, 08:12:19 AM »
So very, very sorry Hops.

(((((Hops)))))

((((((R))))))))

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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #19 on: August 16, 2006, 01:45:27 AM »
((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))


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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #20 on: August 16, 2006, 07:01:50 AM »
((((((((((R))))))))))
((((((((((R's partner))))))))))
((((((((((Hops))))))))))
((((((((((R's family, church, and other friends))))))))))
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Re: my friend R (sad)
« Reply #21 on: August 16, 2006, 10:37:37 AM »
(((((((((((((((((Hoppy))))))))))))))))))))))))
Here's a little hug for u
To make you smilie while ur feeling blue
To make u happy if you're sad
To let u know, life ain't so bad
Now I've given a hug to u
Somehow, I feel better too!
Hugs r better when u share
So pass one on & show u care

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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #22 on: August 16, 2006, 08:41:26 PM »
Last night she told her family and her partner D that she wanted to sleep outside. So she spent her last night under the stars, next to her beautiful garden, with the silhouette of the mountain in view. This morning, she spent several hours on her patio. She was calm and lucid, saying goodbyes. The Hospice nurse said her bravery and her lucidity was amazing. Finally she rested, and died with D holding one hand and her father the other, and one of our minsters with them. She was surrounded until the end with the love of friends and family, in her beautiful home, with the sounds of nature.

What made me feel best was that one of her friends who spoke to her last on the phone told me that R told her, I am ready to go. I felt peace when I heard that.

I sure will miss her though. Thanks everyone for all your kindness, for someone you don't even know.

love,
Hops
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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #23 on: August 16, 2006, 08:43:55 PM »
(((((((((((((((((((Hops))))))))))))))))))))))))

You are such a kind friend. What a lovely end to R's life, to be surrounded with love and beauty.
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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #24 on: August 16, 2006, 09:15:04 PM »
"Here then at home, by no more storms distrest,
Folding laborious hands we sit, wings furled;
Here in close perfume lies the rose-leaf curled,
Here the sun stands and knows not east nor west,
Here no tide runs; we have come, last and best,
From the wide zone in dizzying circles hurled
To that still center where the spinning world
Sleeps on its axis, to the heart of rest."

                                   --- Dorothy L. Sayers
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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #25 on: August 16, 2006, 11:11:17 PM »
She died so peacefully.  I'm so sorry for your loss Hops.

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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #26 on: August 17, 2006, 01:56:44 PM »
HOPS              What a lovely sweet passing   

love and blessings

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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #27 on: August 17, 2006, 06:01:40 PM »
(((((((((((Hops)))))))))))

If only all lives ended with such love and beauty.

Live, Hops, live, and plan a wonderful end!

Thinking of you.

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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #28 on: August 17, 2006, 06:31:59 PM »
Thanks everybody, much much.
Just took a quiche out and left it at the family's house, then stopped by R's house and D was there alone and distraught so it was good timing.

I feel wrung out. But okay.

(((((All))))

Hops
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Re: my friend R (peaceful)
« Reply #29 on: August 17, 2006, 08:28:45 PM »
(((((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))))