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Emily:
Hi everyone,
I've posted a couple of times, and lurk alot.  I feel like I know alot of you, but know that I have as yet to post my story.  I guess I feel sort of scared to post it.
So many of you talk on this board about the continuing hits and confrontations you have w/ the Ns in your life.  It's been sooo helpful to hear your stories, how you handle these clashes etc.  As soon as any of my Nparents or Nin-laws are confronted they excommunicate us from their life.  There are no e-mails, no phone calls, or threatening letters,...just silence...for weeks and months...nothing to their grandchildren, nothing to me or my husband.  Unless you come crawling back and apologize, they won't make one move of their own.
Probably some of you would welcome that silence, and in some ways it's liberating for me too.  But nothing?? This feels so controlling to me, and heartless.
Any thoughts?
Emily

Anonymous:
It's sadistic. They will contact you again when they need supplies. Until then, well....Just realize you did nothing wrong and distract yourself. You may find that you don't miss their antics very much.

bunny

Portia:
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Discounted Girl:
I used to think I had been "abandoned" and "disregarded" by my family, at the direction of my NQueenmother -- but then I realized that "abandoned" would mean that I was examined and a decision was made to leave me, but I was never included enough to be left, so that was not a correct term. "Disregarded" means that I would have been looked upon and a decision made that I was not important enough for regard, but I was never looked at, so I invented the word "unregarded" and almost named myself that on this board.

Portia:
Discounted Girl: you're held in high regard here (even if you don't ever look at your private messages!) How does Counted Girl sound?  :D P

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