Lost My Job and Doubting Myself

[moonlight52]

HI YA BONES

I just wanted to tell you how much I admire you and am glad you are here.
I am an artist I use many different media .But I just wanted to say I am legally blind in one eye.

It is amazing how my mind uses my one good eye the only thing I can not see would be if I went to a movie that had 3-d .Oh well
I still paint and sew and all the other stuff.I also have an on-ocular that helps with my long distance and I do not drive at night .

Really I do not drive a lot and have never driven on freeways well at least not with me driving...........
I do wish you well with your job search and hope you will find just the right position soon,

And good luck with the dentist I just got my teeth cleaned and my little d just got a cavity filled .Sure am glad thats over with..........

Much love to you 

Moonlight

[moonlight52]

Dear Bones ,

P.S.           I was premature as a infant and that caused the problem................

                             Hugs ,
                               
                                    MoonLight

[Bones]

HI YA BONES

I just wanted to tell you how much I admire you and am glad you are here.
I am an artist I use many different media .But I just wanted to say I am legally blind in one eye.

It is amazing how my mind uses my one good eye the only thing I can not see would be if I went to a movie that had 3-d .Oh well
I still paint and sew and all the other stuff.I also have an on-ocular that helps with my long distance and I do not drive at night .

Really I do not drive a lot and have never driven on freeways well at least not with me driving...........
I do wish you well with your job search and hope you will find just the right position soon,

And good luck with the dentist I just got my teeth cleaned and my little d just got a cavity filled .Sure am glad thats over with..........

Much love to you 

Moonlight

Thanks, Moon!

BTW, I went ahead and got my flu shot today even though I HATE needles!  The person giving the shot was good at it.  The shot was over before I had the chance to say "Ouch!"  That takes talent!

Bones

[Bones]

Dear Bones ,

P.S.           I was premature as a infant and that caused the problem................

                             Hugs ,
                               
                                    MoonLight

Ah!!  Being a premature infant has been known to create a LOT of difficulties!  That's something we have in common because I was also a "Preemie"...three months early!  I guess I was in a hurry to get here!

Bones

[moonlight52]

Hi Bones

My twin brother and I were premature about 3 months well  almost 3 months..........

Wow that flu shot has to be done right .I have a girlfriend that works for the blood services and she can give a shot so it does not hurt.
I have had shots given by the best and the not so great.

Hope you are having a good day.
moonlight

[Bones]

Hi Bones

My twin brother and I were premature about 3 months well  almost 3 months..........

Wow that flu shot has to be done right .I have a girlfriend that works for the blood services and she can give a shot so it does not hurt.
I have had shots given by the best and the not so great.

Hope you are having a good day.
moonlight

Thanks, Moon.

I'm having a somewhat quiet day after I came home from having my flu shot.  Your right.  That flu shot has to be done right.  I've also encountered medical personnel who know how to do it right and others who don't care how they jab patients.  When I had to get stitches in my head several decades ago, one nurse ignored doctor's orders to wait and jammed a needle into my shin, hitting the bone.  My instant reflex wound up with my kicking her in her jaw!  Then I heard the doctor yell at her for ignoring him and he threw her out!

Bones

[Bones]

I recently received a job announcement in the mail.  (Job announcement = good  ).  However, the place that sent me the announcement is on the other side of the Bay Bridge, almost to the Atlantic Ocean, about a three-four hour drive one way!  (Commuting distance = bad  ).  I sent it back stating "Thanks, but no thanks."

Bones

[Bones]

I saw that story today too. Just curious, bones, do you have a hearing impairment?
Is she really awful? The story made her sound as if she were fighting back somewhat successfully. Of course, the news we get is so limited here.
How are your teeth, bones? I hope I am bringing up a subject that has been put in the past
Love, Beth

A postscript to the Gallaudet situation...two members of the BoT recently resigned.

Bones

[Gaining Strength]

Bones
About your dufous friend and the Halloween fiasco - do you think she could have some issues that cause her lateness.  It always appears to be rude and inconsiderate but perhaps it has more to do with some other issue.  Could your friend have ADD or some anxiety or could he/she be struggling with huge issues of lonliness that intervene in perceptions of other's needs?  If the lack of consideration is coming from somewhere else you may be able to thwart it with a compassionate conversation defining your needs and boundaries and identifying how they have been crossed in the past and that you don't want to experience another three year hiatus.  Just a thought - Gaining Strength

[Bones]

Bones
About your dufous friend and the Halloween fiasco - do you think she could have some issues that cause her lateness.  It always appears to be rude and inconsiderate but perhaps it has more to do with some other issue.  Could your friend have ADD or some anxiety or could he/she be struggling with huge issues of lonliness that intervene in perceptions of other's needs?  If the lack of consideration is coming from somewhere else you may be able to thwart it with a compassionate conversation defining your needs and boundaries and identifying how they have been crossed in the past and that you don't want to experience another three year hiatus.  Just a thought - Gaining Strength

I have STRONG reason to suspect that she has ADD because she is so easily distracted by EVERYTHING!  It's also starting to get her in trouble at her work because she gets sidetracked so easily with everything going on around her.  She called me last night asking me to help her with her mother because the visiting nurse was not scheduled for today.  I made it absolutely clear that I was NOT happy at this last minute routine and that it is getting old!  I also pointed out to her that if I accept the assignment, she will need to be back home no later than 12:00 noon because I have to leave for a previously scheduled appointment.  I also told her that if she makes me late for my appointment that I will become VERY loud and unpleasant because making others late is RUDE!  She got the message and came home to relieve me, ON TIME!  Then she started getting distracted with a lot of little trivia while I'm trying to get me and my stuff out the door and I called her on that.  It pointed out to me that her attention span doesn't last long when something else comes along to distract her, which results in a lot of things getting started and nothing being finished on time unless someone gets in her face about it.

Bones

[Bones]

I have another job interview coming up on Monday morning, November 13th.  This job would require that I report to work around 4:30 or 5:00 in the MORNING!  The more I think about it, the more I'm going to treat this as an informational interview and not take the job.  I'm not willing to "just settle" anymore.

Bones

[Gaining Strength]

Bones - definitely take the interview as informational but what do you think about considering the job until you can find a better one? It is often easier to find a job when you have one.  Whatever you do keep getting to these interviews that's the best way to find your place. 

There have been times that I knew someone looking for an employee and I could recommend someone I had interviewed but not hired, someone who impressed me but who was better suited for a different job than the one I had available.  Interviewing can be a good networking source.  One thing I might suggest is that after an interview - if you don't get asked back, ask for feed back on what you did well and what you could improve on.  You can get some great pointers this way.

I'm rooting for you to find a good position soon. - Gaining Strength

[Bones]

Bones - definitely take the interview as informational but what do you think about considering the job until you can find a better one? It is often easier to find a job when you have one.  Whatever you do keep getting to these interviews that's the best way to find your place. 

There have been times that I knew someone looking for an employee and I could recommend someone I had interviewed but not hired, someone who impressed me but who was better suited for a different job than the one I had available.  Interviewing can be a good networking source.  One thing I might suggest is that after an interview - if you don't get asked back, ask for feed back on what you did well and what you could improve on.  You can get some great pointers this way.

I'm rooting for you to find a good position soon. - Gaining Strength

Thanks, GS.

Depending on what they are willing to pay may change my mind.  If they are willing to pay a "living wage", I'll probably take it.  If they offer me less than what I had previously earned in my last job, then I'll decline.  The last job didn't pay enough to pay my mortgage and condo fee, let alone additional expenses such as food, utilities, gas, insurance, etc.  The subsequent stress outweighed the counseling experience I was trying to obtain.  It doesn't make sense to take a job that will put me deeper into a financial "hole".

Bones

[Bones]

The interview appeared to go o.k. but there were still the two sticking points:  (a) turns out that the place opens at 5:30 a.m. and they wanted me there at 4:00 a.m., meaning I would need to be getting out of bed at 3:00 a.m.  (I don't function well that way.), (b) the pay scale - the reaction I saw on the interviewer's facial expression told me volumes when I stated what starting salary I was looking for and why....student loans and dental bills.  I thanked him for his time and will continue to keep looking.

Bones

[pennyplant]

Yeah, Bones, speaking from experience here, if you took a job where you had to get up everyday at 3 am it would completely change your lifestyle and keep you off balance from the rest of the world and their schedule.  Everytime you go somewhere at night and then have to leave early, like at 7, to get to bed on time, you will have to explain and explain.  People just won't understand.  You would miss a lot by being on such a different schedule.  And if they don't even want to compensate you well.... Just not the place for you yet.  You'll find it.  At least you're getting out there and working on this.  I bet it will pay off soon!

PP