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Anonymous:
and it's not what we are taught.

Me posting about my experience shouldn't detract from yours. But there is such an element of overthrow-patriarchal competitiveness in our worlds that we see warfare where there need be none. where there is none.

THREE RULES FOR REALLY GOOD LIVING:

*do not take the power from anyone, in daily life, on the internet, in your dreams....cultivate a morality of equality and minimal-judgementalism
( based on the no-harm principle )

*treat all children well. Give to them. Allow yourself to be a sacrificial parent. Do not act out your frustrations on any child.

*take responsibility for yourself. Work hard, even when it is very hard. Let go of your comfort-zone. Be the best you can be, and cultivate friends who understand and will enable that. Get help when you need it. Let go of relationships which are too demanding.

seeker:
Hi all,

Just popping in to reply to Lynn.  She wrote:


--- Quote ---but he does fit the typical N profile in many other ways. He completely lacks empathy and uses words in a manipulative and insidious manner. He lives for his own story. He uses me to support that story.
--- End quote ---


Thank you for articulating exactly the nature of the Nness I struggle with.  The major N I formerly dealt with was this, plus a rageaholic behind closed doors.  No horrific physical or sexual abuse, just a Class A-1 Emotional Abuser.  There continues to be features of this in other members of my life, but this describes the Number 1 Devil to a tee.

I'll sign off for now.  This thread seems to contain more than I can address meaningfully.  Thanks.  Seeker

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