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Anonymous:
The reference to 'us and you' was telling. I don't think that my words of encouragment to someone in pain about the N in their life are received less because I don't have a handle, I sometimes think it's the opposite, because I'm not trying to impress anybody which I sometimes feel is the case, wrongly maybe, but it's what I sometimes think with some of the interesting characters here.
And as far as a need to express myself, yes that's right, when I read someones pain I want to let them know that I hear them and they're not alone and maybe offer some insight as guest. How you said it made it sound like guests only ever wish to express themselves without commitment or interest in anybody else. For me personally that's not true, I reply to exhort or encourage with no strings attached because I've been where so many of these posters have been.

That's why this board is here, to have your voice heard and to own it as well.
Karin.[/quote]

I own my voice so I don't agree with the myth that goes around here that suggests that coming on as guest you're not owning your own voice. I feel like you're saying that my voice isn't my own as guest. I don't have an identity crisis by being anonymous. I find most coments from guests to be quite compassionate and encouraging actually. And my responses as guest or whoever would only ever be to encourage so I see it as my choice 100%. I don't see why this bothers people so. This is my voice and I know who I am and what my motives are. I have had enough people in my life telling me how to express myself and how to be. I'm guest and comfortable with it. If you decide not to read me or like me that's fine, I'm probably not here for you. There are much more important issues on this board to attend, and people in real pain than to spend any more time on this 'guest bashing'. But I wanted to add my 2 cents worth.


Guest

Anonymous:
I'm sorry Karin the above I was replying to you and I didn't say Hi, so Hi Karin

Anonymous:
To Guess(t)

Your style is so clear to me, and I reckon I've a fair idea who you are,  you so often throw the word arrogant around when referring to others but have never been able to look at your own reflection in the mirror in this regard and see you are marinated in arrogance from head to toe. This thread needed to be opened up because much of what 'guests' say is heard and appreciated by the people they respond to and often acknowledged or haven't you noticed. Why doesn't that surprise me. You're too bitter and resentful an dried up emotionally up to notice anything other than your own needs. A bit of IQ in there,a whole load of cunning and manipulation and not much else. I imagine you are one lonely SOB. And you talk about guests making it impossible for you to develop a real relationship with. Are you insane. This is the net. When did you last have a picnic or go shopping with one of your real relationships from here. You're putting on such a face but occasionally you slip up. And so often when you're having fun ridiculing and demeaning other posters, and I know your style so well, the same groupies follow behind and get in on the act because they get sucked in by your superficial charisma and believe whatever lines you make up. And I read them laughing at the criticisms that you make-up which are meant to hurt others and they seem to loose their awareness of why they're laughing at people or more importantly why they're really here. I thought it was to  help and encourage and support along the way. Because your miserable life is so lonely, and these abstract relationships are the only real relationships that you have, and because you are so nasty and demanding, you are threatened, THREATENED simply by the fact that you don't have someones name. It's that important to you. This is your world, isn't it. I'm staggered by how trivial an issue this is and how transparent you are. If you had ONE REAL relationship, you'd know that what you have here WITH ANYONE IS NOT A REAL RELATIONSHIP. Its a forum for the voiceless, the wounded and we share experiences and we grow and hopefully we recover by getting encouragement from one another, and  then even better we get a life and move on with real people to hold and hug. Nowhere have I read that this is meant to be a forum for dissemblers and nasties like you. Who here do you trust enough to give your address to and your real name and your phone number? Is there one such person here who you have done this with? Will you be going on holidays with person?So much for a real relationship theory. These are abstract relationship, but I think you already know that and just got on with the real relationship crap as a sophist would. It's just a game to you and when you insult somebody it's also a game, it's like score one for you. What you say here is total nonsense. There was absolutely nothing arrogant about the opening statement, it was in my opinion a valid brief, unlike mine, very acceptable position and well done guest for opening this thread. Can't wait to read what your groupies have to say, haven't got to them yet but I'm sure it'll be just as cruel and noxious and critical and harsh and selfish and unforgiving and missing the purpose of being here as yours was. I've got one a bit of advice for you. What the world needs now is Love. What the posters on this board need is love and if you don't have any inside you to give then why are you here. If you're here to get love even if abstract disconnected love is the only type of love you can access at the moment then that's fine, learn to get love here. Without being a put-down smart-ass. You've got a the gift of the gab, use it lovingly, you'll get love back.  I hope your not so attached to the rush of the verbal joust that it's like a drug to you. Be honest and open about your needs without trying to discredit and destroys others and always putting others down. You don't need to be nasty to get attention which is what you always do. And you got my attention once again and I sure recognise you whole dance by now. You should learn to hold your peace and give love. You need to learn to be nice or your gonna be an even lonelier person in 10yrs time because people from here are gonna move on and get healthy and get lives. Where do you want to be then?

Guest

Anonymous:
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Anonymous:
started the original thread, I think it's been very interesting to discuss.
I am definitely more open as guest when I don't have to construct a consistent identity- so much has happened in the last year I know I am often inconsistent and going back and forth. I'm still adapting.
I'm just interested what I have to learn ( or contribute ) at this stage.
I do have several friends in real life who were originally internet contacts!
But few of my friends understand narcissism as people here would, and some of the things I've said here I wouldn't tell anyone I wasn't sure would understand it and empathize.

I believe in karma too Seeker, re post for group hug. Also that we can grow because of as well as despite these trials and traumas.

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