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Avery:
I'm sorry that I have dropped out of the communication for a bit and I was extremely touched by a recent poster who showed concern for my well-being. I still come here and listen...just haven't felt ready to post for awhile.  I'm sorry if I made anyone worry.

I needed to step back after that fiasco of a post that stirred up so much.  That firestorm was NOT my intention.  When I re-read my last post now - I can see why it raised so many hackles.  I should have never used the word "individual".  I shouldn't have been so confrontational.  That post came from a very emotional place within me - which really isn't like me - I usually don't communicate anything until I have removed most or all of the emotion from it.  Saying things from anger almost never gets me anywhere.  I guess I just wanted to protect someone whom I felt was being hurt.  Maybe I'm overly-empathetic and I overreacted.  Maybe that's OK.  Maybe not.  My intent was really just to get everyone to be conscious of how fragile some new posters can be (myself included, obviously) and to treat them with a little extra TLC - it wasn't to publically reprimand (or exonerate) any one person.  That's not my right.

Anyway, I did learn a lot from it.  Someone pointed out that it may be a good thing for a harsh truth-telling to remove someone from their denial.  Hadn't thought of that, I guess.  Maybe I'm too sensitive.  Probably.  I guess I'm just used to someone asking me before they launch the hard truth...you know..."I feel like I know you well enough to be brutally honest with you...are you ready for that?"  kind of thing.  

Since I'm here...I thought I would throw in my thoughts about the guest posting issue.  I don't really see the big deal, I guess.  If someone feels more comfortable being that much more anonymous...does it really matter?  Should we really try not to acknowledge them because they may be too afraid to give a handle?  I know that there have been a few really mean things said under the "guest" name, but I'd hate to discourage anyone who needs our help from posting just because of a few bad apples.  I hope I'm not launching a whole new horrible thing...just my opinion.

That's it for now.  Happy Friday to all of you - I am sending all of you very kind thoughts.

Avery

seeker:
Hello again Avery!  :)

I'm glad to know that your presence is still with us in Cyber City.  I also miss some of the other frequent posters who are quiet now, but hope they are still lurking.  I know some of us have to leave the screen once in a while to attend to the very issues we post about!  :wink:

And to Guest-with-the-nosy-husband: A big, big hug.  I've missed you in a big way and am so glad you are still here as well.  

Love and Peace, Seeker

Anonymous:
Avery, I'm so so so glad you are okay. I've been so worried about you and I still think you were great in standing up and drawing attention to what you felt, I agreed with you but that's history. I have been so angry at the ones who I felt silenced you and am glad I said what I said in 'Why be guest'. I wish I had of said it a lot sooner. I'm so glad you are okay. Welcome back.

Guest

Portia:
Dear Avery. I’ve been thinking about what to say for over 3 hours and I don’t want to leave it any longer. So this is off the top of my head. But hopefully you’ll have seen that I am, if nothing else, honest here. I’m very happy to know that you’re alive. Unlike you I don’t remove a lot of emotion from my posts (I’m trying now). I’m confident enough to show a personality, warts and all. I will try to consider more often that not everyone can do that, or feels as confident. What happened was okay to me. Thank you for an enlightening experience. (That sounds insincere, it isn’t meant to.) I don’t expect to be board-buddies or whatever and I don’t expect you to talk to me but can I ask one thing: do you forgive me for what I must have put you through? If you can forgive me, then I hope you can also forgive the others who responded to my yelling. I’m not even sure they deserve any part of it: they were thinking about me and not you, and that was my fault and mine alone. I hope you see what I mean. Please let me know. P

Anonymous:
Avery, I am trying really hard to ignore Portia's anting to go back into it, but I can't. I remember Jacmac said in her last post on that thread, and I want to shout now, PORTIA WHY CAN"T YOU LEAVE AVERY ALONE! She'll talk to you when and if she's ready. Sorry Avery, I have no right to speak for you and I'm not wanting to create a position for you, but I just have worried so much about you. My personal opinion is that I didn't find you overly-empathetic, just concerned about others too, and the world needs more of that, not less. The balls in your court to talk to talk or not talk  to me or anyone whenever you want. And it should be left there. Now I've said that it's out of the way, and I hope it stays there.

Avery are you still with that therapist who you were struggling with breaking from. I've thought a lot about the therapist's who empathise and the therapists who come on all knowing about our lives. The professionals who sometimes unintentionally put us down and generalise without taking the time to get to know us.

Have you got a new one, none at all or are you still with the same one? I was wondering how it's all going for you?

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