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SilverLining:
--- Quote from: October on December 07, 2006, 01:49:56 PM --- I find it very easy to give anything to anyone. As an example of this, I had a rosary which I loved; my favourite one. I took it to an uncle's funeral this year and used it to help me stay grounded, and prayed with it. So it is very important to me. But a good friend was at my house, and admired my rosary collection, and I said, I have lots and lots, you can choose which one you want. She chose that one. And I felt a tug, but thought, she is more important than the rosary, so she can have it. Part of me mourns for the prayers that went into that rosary, but mostly I think it has gone to a good home, and was only here in passing. And I still have lots more left.
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Last night I read a story which reminded me of your comment.
A wise woman was traveling in the mountains when she came upon a beautiful clear stream. Thirsty she cupped her hand, reached in, and brought the water to her mouth. After she had drank, she noticed a precious stone in the palm of her hand. She held it high and it glittered in the sun. Delighted, she tucked the treasure into her bag. The next day the wise woman met a hungry fellow traveler, and without hesitation she opened her bag to share what food she had. Immediately, the traveler caught sight of the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without the slightest hesitation.
The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. This stone was surely worth enough money to provide a lifetime of security. But only a few days later, he came back, his brow furrowed, and returned the stone to the wise woman.
"I've been thinking," he said. "I know how valuable this stone must surely be, but I've brought it back to trade for something even more precious. Please give me what you have within you that enabled you to freely give me the stone".
This was in a new book called the "Trance of Scarcity"
October:
--- Quote from: tjr100 on December 08, 2006, 01:42:05 PM ---
"I've been thinking," he said. "I know how valuable this stone must surely be, but I've brought it back to trade for something even more precious. Please give me what you have within you that enabled you to freely give me the stone".
This was in a new book called the "Trance of Scarcity"
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That is a beautiful story. Thank you, tjr. I will print that one out to think about. ((((((((hugs)))))))
gratitude28:
October,
You brought out so many ideas I don't even know where to start...
But as to whether I clean in some sort of homage to my father - yes, I think you are totally right. It is some way, I think, also, of saying I am on 'his side,' if that makes any sense. It seems to me there was a ton of 'taking sides' in my house and that was one of them. I never have really thought this through...
Also, you are so right about the price of everything and value of nothing. My mother is truly that way. When I was reading about children I realized that too much clutter keeps them from being able to enjoy the things that are special and from which they might truly learn. I have also made myself absolutely stick to the rule of "If you bring something into the house, something has to go." And I get rid of stuff (for the most part) that hasn't been worn in a year. Honestly, I am amazed I didn't get rid of my wedding dress. I probably will. I hold very little value in things and always have. And I can't believe that my mother doesn't have a spiritual bone in her body... that there is nothing that holds any true value for her. She just DOES NOT see things that way (and I don't think she ever will).
Thanks, October, for the food for thought. And thank you everyone else for the great additions to the topic here. To me this is very important and something I really appreciate input on.
Love, Beth
Hopalong:
All of these posts make so much sense to me.
I think what's going on with me isn't about stuff.
It's about not wanting to be responsible for myself.
It's about wishing my dad were back (he took meticulous care of paperwork and finances.)
I don't spend. I don't consume. I don't collect. I don't spend.
I JUST DON'T PICK UP MY STUFF AND TAKE CARE OF THE PAPERWORK BUSINESS OF LIFE.
Yoicks. Sorry for the caps but I am embarrassed to say it at all so I said it loud to get it out.
It's very odd that I'm so focused and responsible at work, I accomplish a lot, and I'm the same way in taking daily care of my mother.
But when it comes to taking care of my own space, my own paperwork/mail/all that...
I escape. And it ain't good. :oops:
Hops
gratitude28:
But hopsy,
You have identified the problem... so WHY are you still doing it???? Do you want someone to save you????? What is the result you are fishing for (dig deep... you know it's in there).
Love, Beth
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