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DeCluttering: Inspiration, Success Stories, Tips
Hopalong:
No kiddin', PR...
HAPPY to hear that story! I love thinking of those little puds, content to use their voices...
Just being taught--early--lots of words to describe our emotions...like in a big box of Crayons--so many shades.
Yes yes. That's what kids need to be taught!
* absorbed
* abusive
* accepting
* accommodating
* accomplished
* adaptable
* adversarial
* aggressive
* agreeable
* alert
* altruistic
* analytical
* angry
* annoyed
* antagonistic
* anxious
* approved of
* arrogant
* ashamed
* authentic
* balanced
* beautiful
* belligerent
* bereft
* bitter
* bored
* brave
* broken down
* bullied
* calm
* chaotic
* cheerful
* cold
* commanding
* compassionate
* competitive
* complaining
* conceited
* condemned
* confident
* conflicted
* confused
* conservative
* content
* controlled
* controlling
* cooperative
* courageous
* cowardly
* creative
* critical
* cruel
* curious
* defeated
* deluded
* demanding
* dependent
* depressed
* desperate
* destitute
* destructive
* detached
* dignified
* disconnected
* discouraged
* disgusted
* dominated
* dominating
* eccentric
* ecstatic
* egocentric
* egotistical
* empathic
* empowered
* envious
* erratic
* excited
* expressive
* extroverted
* fair
* faithful
* fearful
* frightened
* frustrated
* glad
* good
* grateful
* greedy
* grieving
* guilty
* happy
* harmonizing
* hatred
* helpful
* helpless
* hesitant
* hopeless
* idealistic
* ignorant
* impatient
* important
* impoverished
* impulsive
* indifferent
* individualistic
* inert
* insecure
* insensitive
* inspired
* in service
* interested
* intolerant
* introspective
* invulnerable
* irresponsible
* irritated
* isolated
* jealous
* joyful
* judged
* judgmental
* lazy
* likable
* lively
* lonely
* lost
* loved
* loving
* mad
* manipulated
* manipulative
* mediating
* miserable
* mistrusting
* moody
* moral
* negative
* noble
* obsessed
* open
* panicked
* paranoid
* passionate
* passive
* peaceful
* perfectionist
* pitiful
* pleased
* poor
* possessive
* powerful
* practical
* preoccupied
* procrastinating
* proud
* punished
* punishing
* purposeful
* rage
* reactionary
* reclusive
* rejected
* rejoicing
* repressed
* resentful
* resigned
* resistant
* responsible
* ridiculous
* righteous
* ruthless
* sad
* sadistic
* secretive
* selfish
* self-accepting
* self-condemning
* self-defeating
* self-destructive
* self-hatred
* self-obsessed
* self-pity
* self-sabotaging
* sensitive
* serene
* shamed
* shut-down
* shy
* sorry
* stable
* stimulated
* stricken
* strung-out
* stubborn
* superior
* tantrums
* timid
* tolerant
* unconcerned
* understanding
* unforgiving
* unhappy
* unresponsive
* untrusting
* vain
* vengeance
* vicious
* victimized
* violent
* visionary
* well-meaning
* wise
* withdrawn
* worthy
love,
Hops
sKePTiKal:
HA! Love your list...
for me - it's more than just the words to describe the emotions: it's the permission to feel and practice feeling and expressing and belief in - the emotions themselves. For most people, all those words are all there! For me, the "nice" ones simply weren't - and it was dangerous, except in certain prescribed dances of doom with the N, to even point out that they were real.
A favorite prof used to say that "Puritanism = the fear that somebody, somewhere might be happy"... and I think many N's or PD's believe the same thing.
Hopalong:
Back to clutter topic...
I am readying myself for an intense weekend, with really only one free day (required dadblasted company picnic will eat Sunday)...
I need to:
continue paper control
complete budget spreadsheet (makes my brain hurt)
filefilefile
And then write like a demon on my freelance thing, as if I don't get in a solid day of it, the panic will build again just like it did before the last deadline.
So that's my decluttering goal for this w/e--continue paper control. Don't get distracted. Stay on task.
love,
Hops
Hopalong:
Bravo, Nikko! Throw that clutter HERE!
When you write down a description of what it is, it seems so...well, whatever it was was just an object, wasn't it. Does it help to see how you wrote, "a teapot"? A teapot is gone from your space. And you are richer by the amount of space it once took up.
Throw away on, donate on, declutter on.
It's helped me too, to be noting both the struggle and the progress here. That's what this thread is for, for anybody.
House is infinitely better after a day and a half of expensive help that was worth more to me than groceries (not that I'm short of those). It feels lighter, the floor isn't gritty under my feet. Things kind of glow. Don't know how I'll maintain it, but the woman I found was amazing, wonderful, incredibly meticulous, and brought me fresh eggs from her chickens.
I cannot possibly live the heading-toward-upper-middle-class life my mother did, with "hired help" all the time. But now and then, for these things I just couldn't do while working a job and a half...it has been worth it. I had to calculate how I would earn triple what I'd spend per hour by doing this freelancing, and then just figured for things I could not avoid (like mold remediation, foundation repair, lawn cutting which my back won't do, and this emergency, pre-new-tenant cleaning) -- it has been worth it. (Also a BIG reminder of how complex running a house would be if I did own it and have no help, as opposed to a little townhouse for example. So that's good to put in my pipe and smoke too...when the time comes to reconsider the question, that data will be in my mind...) I'll recoup some of the repairs outlay though, whenever it's settled.
So I feel less cluttered and I have finished one article today despite the stupid company picnic, and am about to start cranking the next.
Onward, before I ADD myself off the task again...
xo,
Hops
Hopalong:
YARD SALE IS OVER.
Aaaaaggghh. Dunno if I made much, haven't added it all up. But it's done and a whole lot of junk is GONE! Sold about half of it, and all the rest was just enough to fill the back of my van. Straight to Goodwill with that, and celebrated with pizza with my paid helper-friend (who was an hour late).
Really difficult and unpleasant --the anticipation much worse than the doing, of course--and I wish I had included a whole lot of things I thought about afterward. But it wasn't nothing. It got done. Whew and whew and whew.
(It really kind of amazes people what people will buy. An old pressure cooker missing the jiggy-lid thing. Cracked terracotta pots.)
Also amazed me some of what I let go of. A painting my great-aunt did. Large, a treacly subject matter, but well executed. Let it go for $10. Huge set of qood-quality steel patio furniture (kept one small curved bench for the future tiny deck or whatever). All the antique silver plate at about 50 cents per piece. (One man came up and muttered, "those people are dealers" about the couple who bought it. Heck, I don't care who they were.)
The details don't matter but it is a big relief. I still have a lot of things to sort through and more to let go of. But I realize I've accomplished something.
Clutter and stuff, clutter and stuff. Organizing, letting go.
Still a big struggle and still layered with all kinds of anxiety and resistance. It's not the letting go as much as the sorting-preparing-gathering-organizing-deciding-pricing that I found the hardest.
Got some insights on how I yearned for a companion to do it with. How sometimes "not cleaning up my room" is because I'm waiting for the fairy sister I always yearned for to be in my room with me and yak and laugh while we go through junk.
Anybody want to talk about clutter some more?
xxoo
Hops
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