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Anonymous:
all I say is if you personally are so messed-up you have to harrass people here, I hope things improve for you soon.

It must be hard not being able to just empathise and let things go.

rosencrantz:
It's difficult to know who's talking to who(m) when everyone is 'guest'.

I think the issue of 'guest' is a difficult one - but I don't think it's possible to deal with these issues 'in private' as suggested above.  If you are a guest, you don't have privileges on the Board to send or receive PMs.

But I also don't thnk it's healthy to deal with things 'in private' in that way - potential for way too much damage.  It becomes too personal.

I was looking at another Board last night and was impressed at how healthy and civil it was.  Not restrained but (self-)controlled.  They had a separate section which I think was called 'Fanning the Flames' and had the warning 'Enter at your peril'.  

In fact, going into that section seemed to calm things down - once someone had a good scream or bitch and received some support, they were ready to be good humoured again.

Perhaps it would be healthy for us to have a 'get it off your chest but only read it if you're feeling strong enough' forum here. People could say they were continuing the fight in the 'fight forum', (or be given a friendly warning that it was time for 'time out'!!), have a spat and then come back again.  Meanwhile, people not ready for such 'tough love' (?) could stay safe in the main forum.

I'd call it the Angry Ladybird Forum  :lol:

Portia - I never understood that children's book until I heard you get started!!!  Portia, the Angry Ladybird (Sign-off sig : "Wanna fight???!!!!")  :wink:

R

rosencrantz:
Eric Carle's book is known as the Bad-tempered Ladybird in the UK - and the Grouchy Ladybug in the US.  But I expect y'all knew what I was talking about.   :)
R

Anonymous:

--- Quote from: rosencrantz ---I was looking at another Board last night and was impressed at how healthy and civil it was.  Not restrained but (self-)controlled.  They had a separate section which I think was called 'Fanning the Flames' and had the warning 'Enter at your peril'.  

In fact, going into that section seemed to calm things down - once someone had a good scream or bitch and received some support, they were ready to be good humoured again.

Perhaps it would be healthy for us to have a 'get it off your chest but only read it if you're feeling strong enough' forum here....
R
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I think it's a great idea.  It keeps the stuff that most do not want to be subjected to off the main board, and also gives those who need to say whatever,  work out whatever, or perpetually argue ad infinitum, their place to be heard...  

Also, nobody on the main board is "harrassed".   If someone has a bone to pick with another, they can suggest taking it over to the "venting" board to that person, and the other individual has the choice whether to go there & engage or not.   If they choose not to, the original asker may  not post their grievances to the main board.   They can vent all they like on their own on the "vent" board, however, if they wish.

It seems like that would be a helpful system...

Anonymous:
I think it's clear why so many are signing on as Guest to speak out against the negative behavior that's been going on here lately.  They don't want to be targetted and chased all over the board, having their threads ressurected in an attempt to find the smallest point to exploit and demean the author.  So they respond as Guest, and do not fall into the realm of voicelessness, but at the same time they also protect themselves against the toxic phlem that this GUEST is spewing all over this forum.
R's suggestion is a good one.

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