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CB123

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A success
« on: January 03, 2007, 06:53:21 AM »
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When they are older and telling their own children about their grandmother, they will be able to say that she stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way -- and it surely has not -- she adjusted her sails.  Elizabeth Edwards 2010

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Re: A success
« Reply #1 on: January 03, 2007, 07:08:30 AM »
CB

Sounds like you have had an amazing experience.  Well done for your courage and not getting defensive in the session.  It seems to me you HEARD what your son was saying.  Challenging yourself around your daughters also seems like such a brave thing to do.  I am struck by the honesty in your post.  Wish people in my life would be so real and help me with my healing.

Keep it up,


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Re: A success
« Reply #2 on: January 03, 2007, 09:04:25 AM »
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Yesterday was a scarey day for me--but it turned out to be very good.

Wow, CB what a loving, strong mother you are! Your post was filled with such healing, understanding of each need you individually need.
I'm so happy your fears were replaced with goodness and hope.

To you!!!!!!!!!!! seasons
"Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the Rest to God."
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Re: A success
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2007, 09:33:37 AM »
WOW, CB...

What tremendous grace, maturity and courage you have.
Something in your tone tells me you present your own learning and regrets to your children without groveling.

You listen and hear and you THINK. A person can literally hear you growing.

I truly believe you have a very strong self. Not selfish. Just strong.
Stay strong with your STBXNH. But don't worry about here, or even with your kids all the time.

I think your boy is doing just great.
I admire you enormously.

You don't judge much, you just do. Wowsers.

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Re: A success
« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2007, 09:38:00 AM »
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But I do so HATE having to drag my self around on crutches til then! 

You won't be dragging around on crutches as long as it may seem.  I see such tremendous growth
in this post.  You are growing even before the wounds have set.  Your healing is on super charge.
Meanwhile, I know all too well what it is to drag around on crutches and it is so very, very difficult.

But in your own words I hear healing and optomism.  Keep focused on your healing it will give you
courage when the crutches wear your underarms soar.  - love and encouragement from Gaining Strength

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Re: A success
« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2007, 01:37:58 PM »
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I thought this was really something I could comment on, CB: He said that the dysfunction is when you keep doing the same things that protected you, when you no longer need the protection.

I have seen this put into practice with people who have MPD (multiple personality disorder)...they are told that it's safe to let go of the alter inside of them, who was their protector, now that they no longer need protection as an adult.  It is powerful to watch!

~Laura

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Re: A success
« Reply #6 on: January 03, 2007, 04:51:07 PM »
like setting a broken bone and knowing that someday soon you will be strong enough to run.  But I do so HATE having to drag my self around on crutches til then! 

great analogy! And imagine the satisfaction when you break free of the emotional calipers and run faster than you ever have before!

So glad things are going well for you (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))