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--- Quote from: write ---I remember how often we would be getting ready to go out, he'd get himself ready and watch TV while I'd be getting myself and the kids ready. If I asked him to help, or made any request at all he'd say "If you ask me or interrupt me one more time we're not going." I didn't drive a car back then, and the kids and I learnt not to interrupt him. He meant it. So many times, we'd all be nearly ready or ready to go out, and because he was interrupted, he just wouldn't go, so we couldn't either.


this is mentioned in Lundy Bancroft's book 'WHy Does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men'
It's a control thing and a way to make you suffer and jump through hoops.

Sounds like you've come through a lot.

Your church experience is one of the reasons I don't like organised religion much.
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Thanks write, that book is on my list of 'to reads'. You just reminded me.
And I agree with you, my church experience is now one of the reaons I don't like organised religion any more either. I don't think about him or bother trying to analyse him much anymore, he was such a closed book. I've never quite worked out what he was.

But he's never re-married or even dated as far as my kids know, my kids have a lot to with him. He loves being a bachelor boy, lives like Jerry Seinfeld. Incredibly neat and clean. Keeps his yard neat now. Keeps a job. Does everything he can for the kids. Helps me out occassionally. Still goes to church and has the same friends. I sometimes think I we were just completely incompatible, and he was never eman to be married. Too much pressure.

Thanks

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