Let's talk positive!

[Gaining Strength]

I are working on changing where I am.  I realize that during my formative years I internalized fear of abandonment and rejection and a highly critical perfectionistic voice that is NEVER satisfied.  I want to overcome that voice and to rejoin the world that I once felt a part of (if partly on the fringes).  To move on I must develop a good feeling about myself, I must change my "norm" of stress and move into positive encouraging loving nature. 

Each day during Lent I am going to set a small goal that will build toward a larger goal of moving my inner being from anxiety to peace.  Today my goal is to begin cleaning my house - to start with my bath and bedroom and to exercise for 20 minutes.

One of my great strengths is persistence.  I can develop a place of love within my heart and that will set me free to accomplish what I long for my life.  I hope others here will join me on this journey. - GS

[Sela]

Hiya GS:

What a great idea!  Doing something instead of giving up something for Lent!  I love it!  Those are wonderful, doable goals too!  Go for it! 

Oh!  Thankyou for your motivating words!!  I need to get more organized.  I believe I have let too many things go, while trying to recover from trauma, and now I feel ready to change some of that.

Today I will do a good deed for someone..... a stranger.
Today I will remember to take my vitamin pill (which I keep forgetting).
I will write myself a note to remind myself and
I will go to bed 1/2 hour early and get up 1/2 hour earlier tomorrow (I had gradually shifted my sleep pattern and I want to change it back.  I think the extra daylight helps me.)

Thankyou for inviting me along GS.  I don't think I will be able to get here every day to post but I will keep track in my journal and keep setting small goals each day.  Practice my own preaching....small steps eh?

  Sela

[maitri]

(((((((((((GS))))))))))))))

You rock. That message is the bread-and-butter of life, in my estimation. You start where you are, do what you can, and get just a little bit better at living well.

In the house-cleaning and self-care tasks you might want to look at FlyLady.com. I don't go in for all the tchochkes and doodads - or even the full schedule - but some of the fundamental ideas about taking care of the house and of yourself, are genius. Like doing things for 15 minutes at a time, letting go of perfectionism, or creating a schedule for housework and sticking to it.

Anyhow - thanks for this upbeat and cheery message. I'm sure we all can use a little up-beatness!

xx
Maitri

[gratitude28]

(((((((((((((((((((((((GS))))))))))))))))))

[Hopalong]

GS,
It's an honor to be your companion.

One square foot might become a beautifiul thing.

love to you,
Hops

[Leah]

  (((((( GS ))))))

[Gaining Strength]

I love fly-lady.  Haven't visited her in years - I was thinking about "polishing sinks" this weekend while visiting a lovely home in New Orleans.

Today I am going to exercise and work on my laundry business.

The greatest task at hand is to convert my thoughts from fear, shame and condemnation to ones of hope, joy and love.  Changing my thoughts and feelings are the key to everything for me.  I am committed to it. - gs

[Leah]

((((( GS )))))))   

You already have the key to Love, Hope, Peace and Joy .... within your heart.  Now you are unlocking the door.

Lent is the perfect time for personal spiritual refreshment.

((( Leah )))

[Gaining Strength]

I accomplished yesterday's tasks early on.  It felt great.

Last night, my mother had a party in celebration of my birthday.  So there is a small mess in her kitchen and my task today is to clean it up and whistle while I work.

[Lupita]

Dear GS:
Could you please, post more goals? I will accompany you in some of them. I already go to the gym, started a diet, and still reluctant to clean the house, but I will. Give more ideas. Also got a list of reasons to be happy. Please, let us hear more about your success. Thank you for wonderful ideas. Today is Saturday. Saturday is a good day to do things since I don't have to go to work.
Thank you GS. I am looking forward to read more about you. You are great!!!!!
Lupita

[Leah]

Last night, my mother had a party in celebration of my birthday.


          Happy Birthday ((((( GS )))))

[Gaining Strength]

Lupita - a couple of years ago I created imaginary parents who are encouraging, loving and supportive.  In recent days I have turned to these loving people to help me change my attitudes and feel loved.  I am using this, almost without ceasing, to feel what it would be like to have that comfort and nurturing that I need and never had.  It is really helping.  Each and every time I feel anxious I conjure up their image and hear their comforting words.   This is a technique that I have cobbled together from many books and in a few short days I am beginning to get real concrete results.

I have to go out tonight to a school fundraiser.  I hate going alone to such things, especially because I don't feel much wanted.  But I am working on changing my attitude before I go.  I can't wait to see how changing my attitude will make a difference.  I am trying to envision myself with friends who call every now and then and who want to get together and have dinner or go to a movie.  That is what I am trying to envision and see into reality. 

I would love to take steps along this journey with you.  So glad you want to come along.  It is more of an interior journey that will have real, measurable outcomes. I'll let you know how this evening turns out. - GS

[Gaining Strength]

OK, you won't believe this!  I was seated at a table with three couples.  Two of whom I used to be friends with.  We had a wonderful time and have made plans to get together for dinner in two weeks.  Can you believe that!

I'll let you know how things go in two weeks.  This is kind of eerie.   If it hadn't happened to me I wouldn't believe it.  As I look back on what I wrote just hours ago I can hardly bellieve it.  This change of attitude appears to be working. Dare I believe it?

[CB123]

hee hee, GS!  I'm dancing around the room with you!

We had a wonderful time and have made plans to get together for dinner in two weeks.  Can you believe that!

How cool is that? In just a few days, you went from making a goal of cleaning one room to being brave enough to go to a social function you were dreading.  AND having a wonderful time, too!

You have got to feel great.

CB

[Leah]

((((( GS ))))) So very very happy for you and reading your news this morning is just so wonderful ((( Leah )))