Glad this forum is here

[lynn]

Hi,

I have been reading lots of posts and I wanted to say how much this board supports people in need.  It is amazing how often people find this forum just as they are making a critical life decision.  

And over the time, you can see their level of self-understanding increase.  When others validate how they feel.  When people share a common life experience.  It's possible to see patterns in Ns that we could not see before.  

Up until the time I found this board, I did not have language to describe how I felt.  Now, with you support, I have words to describe how I feel.  And those words make the situation more tangible.  And when the situation is more tangible, I am better able to make a plan.

much appreciation,
lynn

[Wildflower]

Hi lynn.  My brain is kind of in hibernation mode this week, I think, but I wanted to say nice post.    

Wildflower

[surf14]

Hi Lynn, it is interesing how many people seem to come to the board weekly.  I've found it different in that I have been able to discuss with others things that  have happened to me that no one I've known before has been through.  Its helped me to  learn and make decisions because I can get a perspective of possible outcomes from the experiences others share.

Lynn, I answered your personal message today and hope you received it.  Sorry for the delay and am glad you are still posting.  Surf

[lynn]

Hi Surf, Wildflower,

I agree.  It's wonderful to get possible outcomes from other's experiences.  've found I'm able to see through behaviors I got sucked into before.... do you know what I mean?  When 3 or 4 people here say, my N responded in this way.... and then my N says almost exactly the same words... anyway, I love being able to hear about others who have had unique, yet similar experiences.

lynn

[kelly8893]

Hi lynn and all,

I would have to agree I found this sight only about 2-3 weeks ago and everytime I feel like I can't handle the feelings or thinking I once had about my N, I come hear and read all the people who have experienced what I have or just type my feelings out. Thank you all for that. I need all the support I can get, I left him only about 2 1/2 months ago for good and still from time to time get this over welming feeling that I have let him down which I know is crazy because the only person I let down was me the last 8 years thinking that he loved me and would be different somehow someday!!??!! Which I now know is very sad thinking about these people because they rarely if ever change!!!! So thank you for letting me talk to you instead of him and draggin myself back in his dark world of pain and loneliness, Since leaving him I don't feel as lonely anymore? How odd since I don't have a partner and I am alone for the first time since leaving home when I was 20 years old ( I am almost 41). So thank  you for helping me deal with the pain!! Have a great weekend!
kelly

[surf14]

Sounds like you're doing great Kelly!  Just think, no more craziness in your life!  Now that's a feeling of control   Surf