HELP! The guilt of 54 years has resurfaced. I have eaten, breathed and slept under a 'secret' toxic family all my life. Now my parents are elderly and still pulling my strings. Mom is in extended care..no problem. Dad...is still controlling and making my life hell. The nursing home says they won't accept him unless he goes for 3 weeks respite so they can monitor his behaviour (they are aware of his anger, outbursts, yelling at Mom, staff, etc.) Meanwhile, he thinks it's all everyone else's fault but his own. I am single and have financial problems. Dad has helped me on occassion. Now, he's holding that over my head. I know I'm rambling, but I really need some support. I had a major argument with my father tonight and told him that I was tired of his controlling me with money. Even tho' I have had financial problems, he has chosen me to look after his finances.. I believe I have done a good job, but now he is accusing me of mismanaging his finances. (he acts like millionaire even though he has been close to bankrupt several times and at the time I took over his finances he had a grand total of 5600.00 Canadian in the bank (at the age of 85)....Suggestions or just a thought???
