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quietkate

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Re: Thought of Something Today I Have Never Thought of Before
« Reply #30 on: March 13, 2007, 07:48:15 PM »
I can't let him go yet.


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Re: Thought of Something Today I Have Never Thought of Before
« Reply #31 on: March 14, 2007, 03:24:04 PM »
(((((((((((Kate)))))))))))))))

Why can't you let him go.  What does he give you???

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Re: Thought of Something Today I Have Never Thought of Before
« Reply #32 on: March 15, 2007, 10:32:38 AM »
We have a lot of history together.  He was a boyfriend of mine in 1976, and I introduced him to my sister.  Because I didn't think we were that good a fit, and I thought that they would hit it off. 

She doesn't know that we used to sleep together before their marriage.  We didn't hook back up for 27 years.  From what I hear their sex life is virtually nonexistent, and they stay together for financial reasons having a home, acreage, vehicles in common.

As he puts it, "If your sister ever finds out, it's going to be pretty expensive."  Wasn't is Elizabeth Taylor who said something like, "You can't make a happy man stray."?

In the beginning  --  three years ago  --  I was divorced, celibate, and too self conscious about a weight gain to put myself back on the market.  But I felt comfortable and safe with him.  Because we had been together before.  He wanted me desperately which was/is very flattering.

Now, three years down the road, we have explored  our sexual fantasies together.  That's a very strong bond.

I have a mother and sister who do not return my phone calls.  I get an occasional note or email.  I wasn't invited to Thanksgiving, Christmas, or my niece's college graduation last year.  I get all my family information from the bil.  Including the times that family members come to visit but I am not included.  Maybe that's a lot of it.  There is a smug feeling of satisfaction knowing things they don't want me to know.  Passive-aggressive.

But he is kind to me, and he does care about me.  He is a good man in many ways.

 


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Re: Thought of Something Today I Have Never Thought of Before
« Reply #33 on: March 15, 2007, 10:48:44 AM »

Hi Kate,

What about the other bf who moved himself into your home?  Has he gone now?

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Re: Thought of Something Today I Have Never Thought of Before
« Reply #34 on: March 16, 2007, 01:01:14 PM »
OK Kate I am trying to work this one out....  It makes me very sad Why wouldn't a happy man stray if he could have two women for the price of one... 

These are the things you say he gives you:

A sense of smug satisfaction
someone with whom to share your sexual fantasies
someone who wants you when you think you are not good enough for anyone else Or let me try and do a bit of a rephrase there.... someone who knows how vulnerable you are...

Now I'm gonna ask you again what does he give you

Please think about it,

Love

Spyralle x