An easy, humorous, considerate time? Green flag!

[WRITE]

my date last night with my last year's crush guy was perfect!
We met at the gym to work out first, then got ready and headed out for coffee.
It was a really fun, gentle, happy evening and made me think- this is what I want when I go out, not so much heavy talk, no drama, just a nice guy and not worrying about where it's leading, just having a very pleasant time.

Losing the crush is wonderful, in fact I am going to work hard at losing the projected-fantasy-relationships from my life altogether.

Thanks for the 'An easy, humorous, considerate time? Green flag!' heads-up Hops, really helped me to calm down and enjoy myself.

He gave me a lovely hug at the end of the night and said 'it's been delightful'!

[isittoolate]

sounds great!! WRITE

Lucky you?

love
Izzy

[debkor]

Write,


Good for you. I'm glad you had such a nice time. He sounds like a really nice guy.  Relaxed Date.
I'm happy for you.

Love
Deb

[Gaining Strength]

Sounds wonderful WRITE.  So glad you had a pleasant evening out with a gentleman.

[gratitude28]

That sounds so sweet, write!!!!!
Love, Beth

[Stormchild]

[Leah]

   Write 

So very pleased for you, that you truly enjoyed a very pleasant evening with a real gentleman.

Does he have a brother?

Leah xx


PS .... I'm too much of a scaredy cat to go on a date. 

definitely have a Date Avoidance Disorder ....... is there a cure I wonder ??   

[WRITE]

Thanks guys.

So glad for that, the rest of the weekend has been really ahrd, son playing up, finally i lost it with both him and ex.

Ex is making noises about moving states....he looks considerably happier now that I look anxious of course.

He is cookign and journalling with son so I suppose that's progress, but i almost had to have a breakdown to get him to comply.

Thank goodness I didn't pursue the other guy- he was this morning at church talkign about former lovers! Clearly another big-head who thinks all women should be chasing him.

I just saw a t-shirt:

You used to be my type...

but I got help!

I should wear it around him.

definitely have a Date Avoidance Disorder ....... is there a cure I wonder ??   

Time probably. Time and friendships. Time and friendships and therapy.

And makign such a contented life you don't care if the date works out or not...

My contentment has evaporated in the face of constant pressure from son and ex though today.
When will it end? I foudn myself lookign out of the car just crying, it's not that I want to feel sorry for myself but every time I get things together the people who I think love me do their best to trash it.

So much for a friendship with my ex- he's trashed that too, what a surprise.

i just looked at him earlier and said 'you are such a fool. You could have so much'.
He said 'people with depression have a much more realistic perspective on life don't you think.'
Pompous ass.
I said 'that's serving you well, isn't it.'

I hate him today, but it'll never change until son grows up.

When we got the journals he said 'okay then, lets get the books to stem the nascent personality disorder.'

He knows, he can't help it but he knows fully what he is doing.

[Leah]

definitely have a Date Avoidance Disorder ....... is there a cure I wonder ??     

Time probably. Time and friendships. Time and friendships and therapy.

And makign such a contented life you don't care if the date works out or not...

Oh Write, it was just my jolly sense of humor. 

I have some quality friendships and certainly do have a contented life, never lonely, can enjoy my own company.  In any case I have so many wonderful things I can do and enjoy.

I think having a contented life and faith is maybe why I am in no hurry really.  Added to the fact that I have invested the last 3 years in working through my childhood and adult life with N's and FOO.

Reading, Reseaching, Realization and seeking Validation ........ just finding ME really.

All in all it has been a heartbreaking journey but I believe my Rainbow of Promises and Hope is in view now.

Today I have just been so overjoyed having found what I have been searching for, finally.

Leah xx

PS..... you'll have to excuse my zanny sense of humor.