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Barbie:
My mother is a hypochondriac.  She has thus far had everything and I mean everything checked out.  She brought her bills to me and wanted me to see which ones went to Medicare and which ones she needed to pay a balance on.  Anyway, I noticed it said jaw scan and head scan.  I looked at her and said "You had your jaw and head scanned?  why?" and she giggled and said "oh, did I?"

Anyway, she is such a hypochondriac that our local emergency room had a list of people they were to refer to regular clinic if they came in and my mother made the list.  She wasn't even embarrased.

My father died five years ago from lung cancer.  He was a wonderful person, hardworker and an excellent father.  Recently, last year, I believe, my mother came to my house to visit and told me she had lung cancer.  I stared at her for a few seconds and then told her "You do not," and she said "ask my doctor."  I said "well, give me his name and number" and she had this ugly little smile on her face and she responded "no."

Point being, if you are ill, my mother wants to be more ill.  If you tell her you don't feel well, she acts like she didn't hear you.

My father had bad knees before he died and was looking into some kind of knee surgery.  Now, my mother has bum knees.

BlueTopaz:
Anastasia wrote:

But, what I would like to ask all you guys is--do your N's do this alot, also?  Or is this just the behavior of Nmothers/fathers? Is this a narcissistic trait?

My experience with an N boyfriend was the exact same.   That is, not feeling well (so discussion wasn't possible) whenever what I was confronting him with was hitting a truth for which he had no defense of, or couldn't emotionally acknowledge or face.  

He also frequently did the good old "I don't remember" when I'd try to resolve long standing issues I had with things that happened in our relationship.  

These things are defensive, diversion, and avoidance techniques, and I do believe they are a very common behavior in N's.   I've heard many similar stories from N partners.

Portia guest:
Hiya Anastasia!

--- Quote ---She states she should have been a nurse as she would have been able to go in and sew someone up, and it wouldn't have any effect on her.
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“….because I’m so cold-hearted, I don’t feel anything, in fact I’m so numb I’m proud of it! So don’t ever try to get through my armour and appeal to my soft side because there isn’t one – mwah ha ha!” Hey, this is mine too.  

Thanks for the tip-off about the dodgy heart problem…now I don’t believe the same line from mine, there’s been no evidence, and when I consider she’s been buying illegal HGH and other rubbish off the net…well…it seems very unlikely! I didn’t even think it might be a lie. :roll:

Cj, a quickie:
--- Quote ---She said 'I'm sorry if i've ever hurt you!'
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this isn’t an apology, not if it included the word IF. It’s conditional – you have to admit that she’s hurt you and if you did, she’d probably disagree with you about the hurt, the situation…therefore, she’s not actually sorry at all. Tricky huh?   And
--- Quote ---'well, you can get your self up to *******, then!!).
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In my old neck of the woods it would have been ‘We’d better pack you off to Cheddleton!’ – local asylum, probably a housing estate now. Hey, such a caring mother you have, NOT.  :evil: Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. P

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