
I have not written for several months but I am now here to say thank you to all of you for being there and supporting me during my difficult days.
The divorce papers have been filed and my stuff is almost out of the house and I am so happy to be free that I am not fighting for anything. He and I do not speak, only email and I find that it works best that way. His emails range from poor poor him..to...his life became a cesspool after he and I got together; He doesn't come right out and say it is me but the undercurrent is there.
He wants to fight about everything, including custard dishes, I'm not going to do it, I simply say, if you want it, it's yours. A very good friend gave me some sage advice...Think of it as buying back your happiness...Honestly, I would rather buy new custard dishes then fight over them...I'm not looking back and life really looks good. I am finding out that there are people out there that will not use you and don't want to have a relationship with a "victim". It helps me to really work on me and be my own person. Ladies, there are terrific men out here it's just that we are so accustomed to the jerks that we can't see the forest for the trees. Let me give you a little advice, when the nice guys do come along, don't blame them for the abuser's abuse, don't assume that they will be the same way, it's not fair to them. If you have really worked on yourself and are ready to start a life without abuse, the good one's will show up and you will recognize them...