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A Strange Phenomenon - Anyone Else Experienced This Trait?

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Portia:
This might be a hurtful idea, but do you think your step-mother met your father through her obsession? Sorry, but the thought occurred and it won’t go back. I just see her preying on your father when he was weak and hurt himself. How awful.

Also in a very opinionated and totally unsubstantiated way, I’d say that folks who are obsessed with disaster, violence, illness, injury, death and dying  (what a list!) are amongst the most damaged. It’s just a gut feeling. Like small kids who torture animals (and each other)…the damage comes out very directly.

I hope you see as little of your ‘parents’ as possible, if at all. Your description makes them sound very, very dangerous.

Best to you Ishana…. Do you want/need to talk some more? P

write:
Off the top of my head I think it’s a substitute for real emotion.

If it were an obsession without acting out I'd say yes, but in a person who has beaten someone repetetively & so severely as to brain-injure them I'd say it is a sign of a dangerous sadistic person, maybe a psycopath.

Has she had financial or been in other troubles too Ishana?
What was she like during adolescence, do you know?
Was she ever prosecuted for her child abusing?

You are right to keep away from her, she sounds extremely disturbed.

Anonymous:
Hi Ishana,

I just found this place myself. This is my first post, so please bear with me if it shows up in the wrong place.

I find your post to be very interesting because my mother, the N parent in my life, has a similar obsession. Her abuse towards me was always emotional, never physical, but she does enjoy witnessing violence. She spends the better part of the day watching Court TV and is fascinated with shows related to crime, particularly homicide, the more gruesome the better. She volunteers at the local police station and spent two years pushing her way into the homicide division (at least that's what she claims . . . most of what comes out of her mouth is grossly over exaggerated). She now considers herself "special" to have access to autopsy reports, crime scene photos and such.

Having said that, my mother also has similar personality traits as the person described by RedRose. When a death occurs in her own family, she generally shows little emotion or compassion. In fact, she is often pleased to be rid of the individual, which I suppose stands to reason as she has always considered herself to be superior to most members of her family. She can appear kind to those directly involved, while at the same time being quite callous when discussing it with others. When an uncle of mine recently passed away, she sent a sympathy card and flowers to my aunt, but her comment to me was "Oh well, he got what he deserved for drinking too much."

JustKathy:
Sorry, the above post is mine. I should have registered first. Didn't mean to be so anonymous. Like I said, first time posting. I've got it figured out now.

Ishana:
I am so happy to have so many people post a reply to my e-mail.   :lol:  Thank you each very much.  I will try to respond to the questions when I get a bit of time.  What a wonderful place for people like me who aren't used to having their "voice" heard!  Thanks for listening...it feels GREAT!   :D

Ishana

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