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axa

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Anniversary
« on: June 01, 2007, 04:50:34 AM »
Today is the fourth anniversary of my relationship with XN.  I want to acknowledge the peace and freedom I feel today.  I was thinking if we were still together there would be the angst about how do we "celebrate" today.  We would have talked about it.  I would have put forward a suggestion and we would have ended up doing what he wanted.  There would have been stress, confusion.  I would be walking on eggshells trying to make it a nice day............ how glad I am to be free of all of that.

On our first anniversay I told him I would like to go to a nice country hotel not too far from where we lived, have a quiet dinner and stay overnight.  So he booked a trip to another country, which meant flights, stress, time off etc.  When I challenged him about this what was brought up was my ingratitude.  I have no doubt if I told him I wanted to go abroad he would have booked a local hotel.  The bottom line was if I wanted it it would not happen.  My wanting he saw as control, demand etc......... so he would have to do the opposite.

No more walking on eggshells, pounding the earth with my own two size sixes.

Axa

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Re: Anniversary
« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2007, 06:43:10 AM »
Well if I haven't been accused of being ungrateful and disresectful many times I;ve lost count. 

Esp when my sociopath was caught and dancing the dance of "HOW DARE YOU question my affairs?!?!?" 

He'd still be walking around whispering, saying it, echoing it my ear

if he could.  Like a spider.  His agenda. Always so much energy.  More than I have.

Like THAT was the problem.  Me.  My attitude.

Not him, noithing to do with his actions. 

Simple, it's just my ingratitude. 

I wasn't smart enough to just enjoy the life he provided and let him off the hook. 

Ya ya, that's it.

Going between admitting he had some culpability then swing wildly to asking if my life was "really that bad?" 

And the most awful thing to grasp is, he lies like he breaths. Self serving, esteem crushing maneurvers, constant.  And its so important to have full control.  Give nothing.  Humiliate and be revered by his crowd for it. 

It's like having an emotional terrorist free in my children's lives.  In my life. 

When did it begin to get better for you Axa?

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Re: Anniversary
« Reply #2 on: June 01, 2007, 08:37:11 AM »
Wow ladies...

I'm amazed by your powers of endurance and recovery.

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Re: Anniversary
« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2007, 08:16:53 PM »
axa

My fifth is on June 15th----------------------------------only to discover I have more with which to deal.

(Oh my daughter would love the proper grammar there! Otherwise I would have to apologize!)