Poet
Recently I said some words that amazed me. It was over something really small and unimportant. I said to my H:
"I'm not doing this".
It wasn't argumentative or anything emotional. It was a flat statement of fact. And I stopped doing what I was doing (okay, I should explain, we were walking somewhere and I got uncomfortable with where we were , so i said that and turned back, totally independently of what he wanted to do or indeed what he did - it didn't affect my decision).
It's so trite but after the words came out and I re-heard them - the power! i could speak and act and not give a toss about what anyone else was doing. Although i did then give him reasons. I decided for once to follow my gut immediately without considering another person, which is very unusual for me.
small steps, big internal changes. Maybe you could try a small step?
Actually I have made that exact statement, it was like being plugged into an outlet, very powerful statement, I've done this with my son. Or I have said "I'm not investing in this", ( a statement in my mind), then action to follow
I need* to be reminded over and over that I do have power to invest or not invest in something that is going to effect me! thx for the reminder
