Thanks to each one who participated in my care when I was down. I'm not used to what happened. It all hit me out of nowhere. And is taking its good easy time leaving. CFS is what I think accounts for the awful feeling of tiredness and an unbearable back pain on my right upper quadrant. Sure enough that's where the Shingles popped out. I take my vitamins, eat well, try to exercise, it is my weakest link. My main thing is that after all the studying I've done, I am still enmeshed with my mother emotionally. To fix that would require that I go NC. As I've said before, I must take the actions now that I can live with the rest of my life. That is, take care of my mom's needs for doctor's appointments, dressing wounds, help with baths, help with driving, keeping up with apppointments, their results, monitor meds, refill meds. It never stops. WE, my brother and I are working on a two week plan where he will take her to his house to give me a break. I need a month at least. I have a few offers on vacation homes in the mountains that sound lovely. I'm hoping for one of those right by myself to come down and prepare for being with regular people for a wile.
The nephew is still here. I think he thinks I'm his housekeeper, but I'm not. Tomorrow, we will probably shake that down. We need to be on a schedule where the common areas should be divided and kept clean by the one designated to it. He can keep his room the way he wishes, bt once he steps out of it, he's responsible to keep it clean, dusted and presentable. Same with mey half. Meal cooking is touchy. Mom still cooks a little. Nephew cooks a little. I cook seldome. I think I'll leave the cooking to them from start to finish.
Nephew also has to start supplying his own toiletries.
My brother gave me absolute permission to kick him out at the first hint of misbehavior or using.
I'm bleary eyed. Maybe tis will make sense. I love you all.
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