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Myers-Briggs personality types
seeker:
Hey, this is getting exciting!
How weird that three (four if you count me) of us have significant Scorpio leanings (we're secretive, or at least, very private a/k/a voiceless?) 8) I didn't believe in astrology either until I finally figured out what my rising sign was (the Scorpio part), because I act nothing like my sun sign. (And I credit the N in INFP for pushing me to figure this out! :D ) Turns out this is exactly right on the mark. So to find out your rising sign (which sign is on the horizon when you are born) you have to know what time you were born, as well as the date. Go to astro.com for more fun. (It's free). If it holds up for Jung, count me in! God made the stars and planets, too, so why not? :D
The personality types pages are really helpful. I hung out there a lot when figuring out and accepting my reticence. Ugly duckling describes my childhood to a "tee". Anyway, any reference like this is great in creating more self-awareness. The astrology stuff helped me to be more objective about "blind spots" I have (things I don't want to admit to).
May the force be with you! Seeker
kelly8893:
I took the myers-briggs test many years ago and I was an INFJ and it has helped me to realize that I am not weird, I just have a different personality then other people. The feeling of other peoples pain and suffering always gets to me and is ususally my down fall. I have found in the the past year or so that being around my Ex-N for 8 years changed me some how, I am not sure if it was for the better or that I am just bitter but I still love to help people and I enjoy being the person everyone comes to for a listening ear. I like the world around us even if there are awful people in it and I like my world too, the one I go to when I need to recharge and get away from people, ususally the awful ones I like to get away from. This was fun! Have a great night!
Kelly
Portia:
Hello all. I’m feeling a little confused today and a tad ..er.. unintelligent? There are some clever, perceptive people here and I feel – not up to scratch! Well, there you are, that’s me today.
Sorry write for flying at you about that quotation. I thought you were saying ‘stop’ to Rosencrantz. Then I realised today I was saying stop too (‘realised’ gives me too much credit, R told me, thanks R).
Anyway, given my answers today (and of course I don’t trust my answers) apparently I’m an INFJ too with Jacmac, Karin, Write and kelly8893.
INFJ
Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging
Strength of the preferences %
89 56 11 1
I kid you not, as a child and teenager, I always thought I was an ‘extrovert’. I may have been told this, I was certainly encouraged to be one. 89% I? I think that’s just how I feel today isn’t it?
But I have trouble with these tests. I don’t understand some of the questions! Correction: I have a lot of trouble with these tests. Here are some of my reactions to questions. Anyone think/feel the same or similar?
You think that almost everything can be analyzed (well yes! Everything can be studied in some way or other can’t it? But what does ‘analysed’ mean here? Does it mean studied and then some conclusion come to? In which case no, you can study but without any result. Odd question?)
You consider the scientific approach to be the best (compared to what? Intuition? Magic? Faith? And ‘approach’ to what exactly? Approach to life? Approach to how to boil a kettle? So I said no, because science is just tool and it’s lacking, always will be, but I don’t know what a better alternative is.)
You are easily affected by strong emotions (well yes, if I feel a strong emotion, I am affected. Isn’t everyone? Does the question mean: you often feel strong emotions? I don’t know, compared to other people! And what are ‘strong’ emotions? Envy? Pride? Or love and hate? Is it the strength of any emotion, or the type of emotion?)
You feel involved when watching TV soaps (I don’t watch them so I said no. But I cry at films. But I do take questions very literally. Presumably there’s a reason why they ask soaps instead of films?)
You feel that the world is founded on compassion (whoah! I don’t get this one at all. I don’t understand. Is it asking if we manage not to blow ourselves off the earth because we have compassion? Or that there is some external compassionate force that keeps us here? I guess it’s the ‘founded on’ that I don’t understand. Like there’s a reason behind ‘the world’ and I strongly feel that there is no reason. Big emotional response to this question! I don’t feel the world is founded on anything at all and the question implies it might be?! Except maybe the world comes from – is founded on - chaos and chance – the Dice Man isn’t silly but I thought folk would think so R…..)
You think that everything in the world is relative (I was worn down by this time. So I said yes. Otherwise it’s absolute. But it probably is absolute! And just what does ‘everything in the world’ mean anyway? Rocks and stones? They are both relative and absolute!)
Strict observance of the established rules is likely to prevent attaining a good outcome (but this was easy and I wondered what everyone else thought of this question. My answer is yes, of course, isn’t it self-evident? Man makes rules, man is fallible therefore rules should be broken. However, if gravity decides to fail one day, there won’t be a good outcome for us will there? Isn’t this a black and white question? I felt like I was being laughed at by this question!) I’ve just read this question again and it’s driving me nuts. Take “Thou shalt not kill each other”. If we observed that, wouldn’t that be a good outcome? It’s another ‘it depends’ answer.
So – am I a nutcase or simply don’t know/understand enough? I wish I knew what I’m really like. I don’t even trust the notion of personality – not really, when I perceive my simple hormones turning me into an axe-wielding maniac from time to time. Or when I know that I do certain things precisely because of my past. I guess personality is who I am now? Thanks for reading and thanks write for the thread. P
rosencrantz:
You make me smile as always, Portia. And no - you realised, totally, you, yourself. I think I know what you are referring to but I was struggling in a totally different direction. I'd have liked to have kept the kudos ('making a difference' :wink:) but fair's fair! :-)
Just a partial answer for you about the Myers Briggs - there are lots of mini-tests available on the internet but Myers and Briggs would turn in their respective graves if they knew. It takes quite a bit of time and energy to train to administer these tests. I wouldn't get anywhere if I tried to 'do' it on myself. Plus you're advised to answer the questions very quickly ie don't think too much. It does work that way best, answering the multiple choice questions they give you - it's about preferences between alternatives rather than outright value judgements.
The bit I found most helpful was the Introvert/Extravert distinction. Dorothy Rowe presents the theory that in every marriage there is always one of each (tho could be anywhere on the scale) never ever two the same. Yet, we have such different and opposing views of 'Life' that we often end up in misunderstandings and conflict.
My H is off the scale for I; I'm off the scale for E. (Great for knowing who I am; discerning by contrast). He knows I need his company; I know he needs his quiet alone space. So I don't worry about him being 'isolated' AND I don't think he needs what I need - the company of people. It means I don't expect him to want to go socialising. Rats!
Just to really confuse things tho - he's a sociable introvert and I'm a shy extravert. Another reason for getting it done professionally if you want to use it as a serious tool for self-discovery or understanding others in relation to yourself.
We both read the Dorothy Rowe books not long after we got married - made a difference in terms of tolerance, recognition and understanding!!
When I want to explain it in a nutshell, I use her 'desert island' analogy (or Steve McQueen with his baseball in The Great Escape). Who, out of the two of you would be happy on a desert island? My H would be happy as Larry. Put me in isolation and I 'die'. That's the difference.
Fascinating stuff!!! Thanks for letting me share!!!
R
PS Re the concept of personality - the Community Psychiatric Nurse left me with my mouth hanging open (pre-NPD-awareness) when she said about my mother - you won't change someone's personality...(we were talking about my mother's negative way of reacting to the world and I was talking in NLP mode - change your mind, change your life). :shock: I still haven't quite moved forward from that point. It's what we come into the world with and what makes us 'who we are' - and the main reason why the same mother has kids who react in different ways to the same behaviour. Nurture has an impact but nature came first. 8)
PPS It really hurts not to know those intimate details of your life that really matter. Acknowledged and validated. R
Portia:
Brilliant! Thanks R, I'm a sociable introvert - that's itIntrovert! This is going to take some getting used to. Even though it's obviously true, somehow I feel wildly happy to find a new label that fits me. Ain't that silly?
Thanks write for the thread and for getting me here! :D P
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