How do you stop TALKING so much?

[reallyME]

bigalspal,

First, I want to say, may the Lord bless you immensely for being the special person you are.  You are one who has endured and is now able to walk through to victory.  Bravo for that!  You are what we call an INSPIRATION to many, whether you see that yet or not.  I love reading your posts; I really do.  I sense that such a precious human being is on the other side of them.

You said:    I just hate her face and her smirk. When I saw what she did- about blaming me for being a victim when SHE was the one abusing me, I snapped.

I notice this about my husband as well.  When I start yelling about something that is just not right...bills not getting paid, spending my days working a concessions business that brings home about $20 per day, the fact that he goes around looking like a slob and doesn't care...when I yell at him about these things (after trying to talk in a normal voice to which he responds "huh? speak up I can't hear you! but he refuses to have his hearing tested and wear a hearing aid if he needs one)...when I finally yell at him, he sits there with a smirk on his face and then looks up at me so innocently and says "calm dowwwwwwwwwwn, what are you getting so upset over."  (and he says it in a really sloooooooooooooooooow way that makes me almost dizzy if that even makes sense. 

I have sensory issues with things that go round and round, are repetitive or very very sloooooooooow.  I also have trouble with putting my thumb and forefinger around a cylinder-shaped object without feeling really creepy and wanting to run away.  I know that sounds strange but it's time to be transparent and maybe even begin a new thread on sensory issues.

[finding peace]

Hi Bigalspal,

Coming in a bit late here -

I read the topic of your thread – how to stop talking so much, and I thought to myself WOW I wish I could talk a lot.  I am the opposite.  I don't talk enough (can write a book – but in the 3D world I am very, very quiet).

I love meeting people who can talk a lot.  I love listening to their stories, and it makes social interaction for me a lot easier.

My first reaction was that I don't think you should try to stop this – this is a wonderful gift.  But you are right, it could be dangerous.  Is there a way you could allow yourself to talk, but censor only that information that could be dangerous?

An example would be that if you are going on vacation, you could talk about your vacation plans, with the exception of giving out any details of departure dates?  Something to that effect?

Don't know if this is making sense – but for me, people who have the gift of conversation are a breath of fresh air!!!

Peace

[bigalspal]

Hi Finding Peace,
I REALLY like your username. Isn't that what we all want.
Thanks for the kind words.
I am going to try to be careful without losing who I really am. My sweet husband always says he love the way interact with people. He just wants me to be careful.
I'm sorry if it took me awhile to answer your post.
I've been on a voyage with Capt. Jack for a couple of hours. Getting ready for part 2. (Check out my Icon). I really think a little "magical thinking" has been earned by all, don't you think?
Hope you had a good 4th!
Bigalspal

[Ami]

Thank you-- S and S
  You are right. It seems to be dissipating, naturally,if I just let it be.                    Love  Ami