The scales are off (darnit)
and
it's
scary.
Not overwhelming ALL THE TIME
anymore,
just
scary.
I don't want to grow up LIKE THIS, lol!
I don't want to have to fight someone I put in place to protect me.
I married an N(fox) to guard the hen house (marriage/self/life.)
HOW IRONIC IS THAT, lol!?!??
I invited this struggle!
Set it up, engineered it on some level and I KNOW THAT!
I am SO HATING life right now.
Not only do I have to accomplish the things I always struggled with when I was just me, on my own, which I did but it wasn't pretty......
I have to do them AND PARENT AND FIGHT AND STRUGGLE AGAINST a lying criminal sociopath who's bent on bending me to his will. "Ow, you're standing on my neck, ummmmm... excuse me, could you please get off my windpipe?" Figuratively most of the time, lol, of course.
Along with worrying about money resposibilty and keeping up with bills and schools and the emotional wellbeing of wonderful little human beings who depend on me solely...... I have a lifetime of defending an indefensible position with this N crazy person who's as cool as the Terminator around other people! Maddening! And he's a very good liar and thinks that's a compliment!
OK..... I'm flipping the switch to living in the moment.
::CLICK::
See how that works, lol?
I'm now enjoying the perfectly brewed cup of coffee I notice on my bedside table, because I stopped to look around. MMMMmm whipped cream.
I touched my newly waxed and detailed car and changed a load of laundry over a minute ago. Both enjoyable tasks. The scent of my favorite laundry soap on clean bedding. The way my fingers glide accross freshly waxed car paint. I used to enjoy the walking meditation of detailing my car but.....
I'll get into the shower and hope I enjoy it as much as I have 3 or 4 other showers that I wished wouldn't end.
I can't always decide what makes one shower great and the others a dissapointment.
It's the same with massages though I chalk that up to the fact I have painful deep tissue work done and it's rare that I have any work done that's not got me on the edge of crying out. It's a matter of honor that I not cry out, btw. Don't want him thinkin I'm a milk toast. And why do I care? ::shrug:: Ouch.
I look forward to celebrating the little things though.
I realize that's the road to my personal redemption.
Sometimes I look around and I realize I'm lying on the side of the road, lol.....
so I get up,
dust myself off and get back on the path.
Till I find myself laying in the dust again,
and I know I will, lol.
I don't beat myself up about it, for God's sake....
I can barely navigate the path with my goodwill.
Whatever would I do if I was letting the negative voices in my head,
which are pretty quiet these days,
have their way with me?
I wish that for everyone here.
Think positively.
Think constructively.
Keep making moves that lead to a better place.
Have a plan and get familiar with it so you can refer back to it when you're in the void and everything's dark and overwhelming.
One good feeling leads to another.
Feeling better is a matter of consistently making better choices and changing our thoughts and habits.
I feel this in my bones.... I'm on to something; )