I found out something SHOCKING about my NMother!

[BonesMS]

I'm not surprised that these Nparents have no heart at all about anything outside of themselves.  I can remember when I was about 12 years old when a kid, close to my age died.  We had known each other since the age of 5 and he had been born with multiple physical disabilities.  I'm crying and grieving over the death of a child my age and here's my N-mother shoving all kinds of CRAP in my face demanding that I pay attention to HER and what SHE wants!  She didn't care that a CHILD HAD JUST DIED!

Bones

[bigalspal]

Dear Hop & Bones.
I lost a whole post just a  minute a go, so if it shows up I'm sorry!
Bones, That sounds just like my NMother. I'm so sorry, I KNOW that hurt! Death means NOTHING to them. Even a small child's.
Hop, I try to keep contact with her to a minimum. She always calls ME!
She not the other type of NMother who DEMANDS time & attention from her kids, so it's really weird.
I think it's because money is her God & I'm doing better with money than at leats one of my brothers. Plus, we are literally the only ones from the family who will actually talk to her. She gets such a rush out of hearing about my monetary accomplishments! Mind you, we are not rich, but we do have a nice home & car & a 4o1K. That just gets her off! And of course I'm an approval junkie! At least with her. At least it doesn't affect me the way it used to.
Here's another DOOZY for you:
When we moved from our tiny apt into this 4 bedroom house, we needed a dining room set. She stuck her nose in and said, "What you need to do is buy ONE CHAIR AT A TIME!".
My husband just laughed & shook his head. What else can you do? This from the same woman who manipulated my great aunts will to not include me. I might of been able to pay CASH for one if she hadn't done that! Oh the irony. She will always says things like "Don't you feel much better knowing you did this all by yourself?" ARRRRGGG! At least we live over 5 hrs away from the crazy making!
Thanks friends,
Bigalspal

[Ami]

IT is so awful- Friend. I am so sorry. (((((((((((((((((((((((Bigalspal)))))))))))))))))))))))   Love   Ami

[bigalspal]

Ami,
Thank you so much for the kind words!
I just love reading your replies to the hurting people on this board.
After all you've been through, you NEVER hesitate to comfort!
Love,
Bigalspal

[pennyplant]

It seems like it is a matter of the inconvenience of the animals for some of these people.  My mother had two cats for several years and one of them started peeing on area rugs all of a sudden.  Now, I can understand how annoying that is.  My cats do that when a new animal is introduced or if one of them is bullying the others.  They have ruined some furniture and that is annoying.  But you deal with it.

She decided the one that was peeing would have to be put to sleep if no one could be found to take him.  She asked me to take him and I said no because I already had four cats doing the same thing--I figured she would come to her senses anyway.  That's a big deal to go have your cat killed just because of peeing.  She had these same cats for years!  I told her just let him go outside more and he would probably be fine.  But he wasn't allowed outside because of fleas.  None of my suggestions worked.  She just wanted me to take him.  But I didn't.

Sure enough, a few months later he was gone.  I couldn't even ask her about it.  The whole thing makes me sick.  Basically, she feels it is my fault because I refused to take him.  As it is, I ended up with another cat because my son brought home a stray.  So, now I wish I had taken him.  Amazing how I end up feeling guilty because my mother had her cat killed.  When she came over to take me out to lunch for my birthday, the first thing she noticed was my son's cat.  I told her it was temporary until he gets a place that allows animals.  How did I end up being the responsible, guilty one?

[bigalspal]

PP,
Don't you feel guilty for not taking that cat! That's your NMother's sin to bare.
I know, HOW could she NOT help her long time treasured friend!
I guess, PP, unlike US, she has NO conscience!
Like you said, it was an inconvenience!
Oh these MONSTERS!
Take care friend,
Bigalspal