Hi JB,
HMMMM. That's a good question! My kids HATE their Ngrandmother. She's my NMother, & NEVER sees my kids. They are adults now, & never ever even ask about her.
I, on the other hand, am a great grandma! My boys (grandbabies) are ages 11 & 6. They live about 2 hrs away, so I don't get to see them on a regular basis. But I usually get them once or twice a month for a 3 day weekend. As far as gift giving goes, I usually give little gifts here and there, unless it's their birthday or Christmas. For instance, the 11 year old & I both have iPod's. When he's here, I let him download 5 or 6 songs. He LOVES that! For the 6 yr old, he likes a small action figure from Wal-Mart. I always make it a point to be fair.
Hope that helps!
Bigalspal