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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on September 15, 2007, 10:39:10 AM ---There is one dilemma though. Several months ago, a neighbor and I committed to a yard sale, in another city, to get rid of the clutter in our homes. Unfortunately, "said friend" will be at the same yard sale, next week, so it's going to be a bit awkward.
Bones
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To give an update:
When this committment was made, several months ago, my neighbor requested that she be given information well ahead of time because she is a single mother with an elementary school-age child and she needs time to make the necessary accommodations. "Said friend" waits until LITERALLY the LAST SECOND to provide this information and expected us to instantaneously drop what we needed to do for her convenience! As a result, the neighbor could not participate in the yard sale and Nfriend continued to act completely clueless! (Again, I think it's passive-aggressive narcissim toward people who are parents since fate did not allow her to achieve motherhood.) I REALLY DESPISE NARCISSISTS!!!!!
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Ami on September 23, 2007, 12:05:47 PM ---Dear Bones
.I think that you have the MO of your friend(if we use that term). It is really hard to see and face the truth, though.Isn't it? Ami
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Thanks, Ami.
Given that we have basicly known each other since we were in high school, it took awhile to comprehend a lot of things. (I didn't know about narcissism before I started researching the behavior recently.) Now that things are starting to make a little more sense, I'm finding that I'm less tolerant of the BS.
Bones
BonesMS:
Something I observed during the yard sale that really has me puzzled. At one point, while Nfriend was sitting with a plate of food in her lap, a yellow jacket started buzzing around her. Having been stung by yellow jackets myself, I didn't want to see anyone else stung. Those little buggers are NASTY!!! I commented that there was a yellow jacket hovering around her plate of food. Any other person with half a brain would have looked at the plate to notice the wasp. Nfriend gives me the glassy-eyed stare and goes: "Huh? Wha...???" then looks everywhere else EXCEPT down at her plate of food where the yellow jacket is sitting!!!!! Completely oblivious!!!!! All I could do was shake my head and figure: "Idiot! If you want to get stung, go ahead and be my guest! I've done my duty!"
Bones
JanetLG:
Bones,
Well, going by the behaviour of my Nsister, I would say that they'd do ANYTHING rather than take the advice of someone else....even if it means getting stung by a yellow jacket. If SHE'D seen the yellow jacket FIRST, she might have behaved more like a normal person. But no.
Janet
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: JanetLG on September 24, 2007, 04:58:49 AM ---Bones,
Well, going by the behaviour of my Nsister, I would say that they'd do ANYTHING rather than take the advice of someone else....even if it means getting stung by a yellow jacket. If SHE'D seen the yellow jacket FIRST, she might have behaved more like a normal person. But no.
Janet
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I would say that Nfriend and Nsister are both idiots!
Bones
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