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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Certain Hope:
Well, dear Bones... something happens to me when the weather is cold, rainy, and nasty, too! :lol: But in the case of your automobile, sounds to me like an electrical issue... and those can be elusive, indeed.
Today I was thinking about the ramifications of contacting the N-doofus-es in our lives, at times when we need assistance...
and oh, how very much that can be an opening of pandora's box. What does a pathological narcissist expect in return for a favor? Everything, I guess! Then again, N's expect everything anyway, since they're doing you a favor just by allowing you to share the planet with them... lol... oy.
Anyhow, I hope your car get fixed up properly and soon and that it's not some teeny computer sensor gone faulty, requiring 5 hours labor to access.
(((((((Bones))))))) Take good care of yourself.
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on January 24, 2008, 09:41:25 PM ---Well, dear Bones... something happens to me when the weather is cold, rainy, and nasty, too! :lol: But in the case of your automobile, sounds to me like an electrical issue... and those can be elusive, indeed.
Today I was thinking about the ramifications of contacting the N-doofus-es in our lives, at times when we need assistance...
and oh, how very much that can be an opening of pandora's box. What does a pathological narcissist expect in return for a favor? Everything, I guess! Then again, N's expect everything anyway, since they're doing you a favor just by allowing you to share the planet with them... lol... oy.
Anyhow, I hope your car get fixed up properly and soon and that it's not some teeny computer sensor gone faulty, requiring 5 hours labor to access.
(((((((Bones))))))) Take good care of yourself.
Carolyn
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Thanks, Carolyn!
I really do prefer to NOT open that Pandora's box with NDoofus!
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Izzy_*now* on January 23, 2008, 07:58:12 PM ---Hey Bones
Go to the Huskly on the corner of the highway! Cal is good and fair
Izzy
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BonesMS:
I had a situation happen last Saturday that has me scratching my head.
I had gone to a restaurant to meet with a group of friends and talk about our mutual interests. One person, who is not an official member of the group, "dropped in" unnanounced and ordered dinner with the rest of us. We've known her for a few years and didn't really say anything since anyone is entitled to go to a restaurant to eat if they want to. As the group was adjourning for the evening, each of us paying our individual tabs, and I started heading out the door with my take-home frozen dessert, this "gate crasher" accosted me at the door asking me to loan her money to pay for her dinner!!!! :shock: Turns out that she had shown up at the restaurant and brought NO money with her and, apparently, she assumed that others would pay for her dinner FOR her!!! I just looked her straight in the eye and told her: "I don't have it to loan. Bye-bye!"
This individual is older than I am, she knew that she was going to a restaurant and that restaurants CHARGE for their meals! I don't understand how she could simply "drop in", unannounced, and expect others to pay for her dinner plus their own when she has NEVER contributed ANYTHING in the years we have known her!
Bones
Certain Hope:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on January 25, 2008, 01:53:02 PM ---
This individual is older than I am, she knew that she was going to a restaurant and that restaurants CHARGE for their meals! I don't understand how she could simply "drop in", unannounced, and expect others to pay for her dinner plus their own when she has NEVER contributed ANYTHING in the years we have known her!
Bones
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Bones,
My guess is - - she's discovered that this technique works for her... or at least, it works enough of the time that she continues to try it.
Isn't it strange? Kinda reminds me of cleptomania, in a way... people stealing, simply for some weird thrill.
I don't think it's anything to do with the money or the food, but more about the satisfaction of the game.
I wonder how she managed to wiggle out of this one?!?
You did well to respond directly and not bail her out, I think!
Carolyn
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